What caused your divorce?

Question

If you are divorced, what caused it? I know that there are 2 sides to every story..I just want yours.

Answer 1

an abusive husband

Answer 2

No. Divorces can only be caused by the people in the marriage. Whatever tools they use are not at fault. If a person is trustworthy, there is no reason why they shouldn't be ok to use a social networking site. If a person is dishonest and are the type of person who would cheat, then they will find a way to do that regardless of any website. Both my husband and I have Facebook accounts, we use them to keep in touch with family and friends. No drama whatsoever.

Answer 3

Lack of love and respect. THe wife never was told the husband loved her and thinking he didnt care, she lost all respect for her husband. She became resentful jealous miserable and lost hope suspicious of him and even critical and contentuous. He decided she felt nothing for him, so he went into his cave and kept to himself. Eventually he decided that divorce would be the best thing. You see when those two ingredients are missing in a relationship the relationship goes into what is termed a crazy cycle. For it to improve a decided choice has to be made by one of the partners to change his or her attitude towards the other. THe problem is that the situation has often become so explosive that neither party wants to yield. Adam blames Eve; Eve blames the sname; and the poor snake does not have a leg to stand on.

If one decides to make a difference the other within time begins to soften and eventually the crazy cycle stops.

THe book Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs expounds this theory in detail and I must tell you that his theory is spot on and really has pulled together many marriages, mine for one too. People give up too easily and for the wrong reasons. Often this is through complete ignorance. It leaves them bitter, unforgiving and unyielding and walking around with huge chips on their shoulders. My advise to anyone out there in this position is to buy this book and work through it even if you are divorced, because at least you will know what not to do the next time around and rather be accountable towards your spouse. Thank you for your question, it is a good one to have asked. I am giving you a star rating for it.

Answer 4

Expectations of the other. Have no expectations but laugh and enjoy each other unconditionally.
Once divorced, most go thru the same stages in the next relationship. Unless abusive, weak people are the reason for so many divorces.

Answer 5

Alcohol and the friends being ahead of his wife and children. I never had a husband. I was working and raising 5 kids and keeping up with the house. Now he is about ready for a mental institution. It's been 7 years now. No matter the reason it's not easy.

Answer 6

I was in the US ARMY for almost eleven years. I was married for four and a half. I incited the divorce because of the financial burdens that she placed upon our family, and more importantly, she wished not to talk to me: she sought comfort from our hardships in the arms of other men. I became tired of the humiliation of a sham marriage, that I originally thought was for love, I became weary of being broke all the time, and I became embarrassed as a man from the other looks that I recieved from my neighbors and their wives whose husbands had been with my wife. I battled with this infidelity for about a year. I didn't actually know for sure about all the infidelity till about 3 months before we seperated. When I transferred from California to Louisiana via ARMY transfer, I tried to reconcile one final time with her. I asked her to come to Louisiana to start over, all would be forgiven, and we would start off with a clen slate. She never came down, and never returned phone calls or emails. After speaking with a lawyer about 3 months after moving down there, I filed for my divorce. This was October of 2002. We were married June of 1998.

Answer 7

Distance and lack of communication caused our break-up. I believe that communication is the key to sustained intimacy in any marriage. If there is no effective communication between a couple, intimacy is lost and marriage is doomed no matter how great the relationship is in bed. The same thing applies to those who are still unmarried

Answer 8

My husband gambling, mental & physical abuse did in our relationship. He how ever didnt start beating me after we said I Do. I filed for divorce after being in a relationship with him for a total of five years. We have our last court hearing on March 26, 2007. I can't wait!!

Answer 9

Well...he was an alcoholic, cheated online and lied about it, cheated in the flesh and lied, porn addict, spent all our money, experimented with drugs (legal and otherwise), and lied about all of it.
I was young when we married and didn't see this side of him until after. Unfortunately, love caused me to make excuses for his bad behavior. I believed him when he said he would change, one day I just stopped believing.
It's the best thing I ever did. You can't be with someone for who they may be some day, you have to be able to deal with who they are right now.

Answer 10

my ex had an afair with her boss at work, thats what happened, and then she chose him to be with

there is no real side to her story, for whatever reason she comes up with can't dispell the fact that she cheated

so the thing that caused my divorce was my wife

Answer 11

He was a lot older than me.....he was an alcoholic.....and an abusive man (physically, mentally, emotionally)!!!!

Me? I was a pathetic house wife with no opinions allowed....He told me once that the person with all the money had all the power! I gave his POWER back to him and left after 24 years of trying to make something out of nothing.

My children said that all he ever was to them was a 'sperm' donor and a pay check. Not a good thing..........