i can't seem to make friends who want to keep in touch i have to do all the work!
2007-02-04 13:52:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that doesn't mean your weird!! haha girls are just assholes!! for real, if they don't keep in touch with YOU then THEIR NOT WORTH IT!
2007-02-04 13:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tracey Lee ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you just need to find something that inspires you beside people. I started writing and therefore I don't need as many people in my life. I create them myself.
I can be very "self" oriented. It takes me a lot to be "other" oriented. The way I did that for myself was to do things that tricked me.
Such as I now do event planning for my organization. I hold events for 100 to 200 people. I go around and get acquainted with quite a few people at the event.
You maybe could help yourself by getting into anything where you are putting yourself out there to not one person in particular. You would not believe how much praise you receive for doing these ventures.
If you are an adult join organizations that have you give public speaking activities such as Toastmasters (local chapters everywhere) or drama groups. Even things like "Meals on Wheels" where you can bring joy into someones life by talking to them. Let people come to you. Get Busy.
If you are an adolescent or teenager join a ton of groups at your school or in your community.
If push comes to shove and you can not help but still think you are wierd get a little therapy from a good licensed therapist recommended by your doctor. You may have some mental illness that you can be getting help with or you just need some behavioral training (learning how to socialize properly).
2007-02-04 22:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey you're not weird. That's life. People are busy, they have other intrests. Close friendships often don't develop until later in life. Most of our social interaction from grade 1 to university involves friendships that last an average of one or two years at the most. I'm 48, and I have absolutely no contact with anyone I went to grade school, high school or college with. Of all of the people I know now, there are maybe a handfull who still have contact with anyone from college.
This doesn't mean you should give up however. Friendships do take work. But society is changing too. People move around frequently. people adapt quickly. Hang in there.
2007-02-04 21:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not wierd, your friends are, well there not friends if they dont call you and make you do all the work, see if they were your friends they yould want to keep in touch with you as much as you did them , call them to let them know how you feel about this ....
2007-02-04 22:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by crimsion_rain93 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not wierd! maybe you just havent found the kinda people that relate to you try to find those who share the same hobbies and stuff,if you have to jump through hoops for someone to be your friend that isnt the kind of person you want to be a friend with anyway if its anyconsolation i will be your cyber friend just stop by and visit my 360 page and say hi anytime! c-ya later alligator! God bless!
2007-02-04 21:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have a low view of yourself, and so your perception is skewed. It seems to you like your friends aren't really being friends, but the truth is you just think that because you probably dislike yourself on some level. ask someone you know about it and they will tell you you're crazy. Either that or they will tell you to go away and never talk to them again, in which case they aren't really your friend anyway.
2007-02-04 21:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey it will all work out I use to be like that I use to make friends that would not like me at the end I know what ur going through and it hurts but like my mother said to me “its better to have just one friend then to have millions that just don’t like u but pretend to”… try to be yourself and they will come.. Hope it all works out honey ;o)
2007-02-04 22:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hahaha... You're not weird. I think I'm quite similar to you. In the end, I just couldn't be bothered, and ignore them. If they think I'm important enough in their lives, they'll call me or contact me somehow. Heheh. Don't sweat it. Maybe they're all busy with school or work, or whatever else...?
Just be yourself and enjoy your life~! ^__^
2007-02-04 21:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by kawaiisuzakuwarrior 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop doing the work. They aren't good enough to be your friends.
2007-02-04 21:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just get another job or find a space n ur schedule to have some time with them!
2007-02-04 21:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by vvn 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry, You aren't weird. Just have faith and believe in yourself.
You'll be surrounded with friends in no time!
2007-02-04 21:56:33 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel T. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋