and the most important key to Friendship?
2007-02-04 13:51:31 · 12 answers · asked by Alora 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Listening with an open-mind and without judgment of what they are saying. Hear them out within reason and remain positive when it comes to possible solutions.
2007-02-04 14:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by no worries 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Making the choice to love is the KEY to parenting and friendship. The late psychiatrist, M. Scott Peck, M.D., in his landmark book "The Road Less Traveled" (1978) said, "We do not have to love. We choose to love. No matter how much we may think we are loving, if we are in fact not loving, it is because we have chosen not to love despite our good intentions." (p. 83) His book went on to be on the NY Times Best-Seller list longer than any fiction or non-fiction book to that time, so that might suggest the accuracy of his findings. In his definition of loving, communication and caregiving are incorporated, but only an aspect of the bigger picture of loving. It is well worth reading. God Bless you.
2007-02-04 22:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cannot be just one key.
The most important keys to parenting are: discipline, love, mutual respect, patience and understanding.
The most important keys to friendship are: mutual respect, love, patience and understanding.
2007-02-04 22:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect. so many people treat their kids in ways they'd never treat their friends or co-workers. under the umbrella of "respect" comes listening without interruption, judgment, negativity or projection (putting your expectations onto them.) it means allowing them to be individuals--who are different from you--with their own dreams, failings and strengths. remember, it is not YOUR life to live. let them dream their own dreams and don't force them into a mold. you can offer guidance, wisdom, rules without breaking spirits or breaking down communication by treating them disrespectfully. letting your children develop self-esteem and confidence by respectful treatment is the best gift you can give them. they'll need both.
home is supposed to be the safe place; the world is anxious enough to tear people down without help from parents.
2007-02-04 22:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening
2007-02-04 21:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
give your kids some trust. if my parents did not trust me i thing i would be doing lots of bad things behind their backs. Umm dont accuse your kids of stuff all the time. example: mothers accuse their daughters of having sex and keep on naggin about that when she says no. she eventually will go out and do that so you can be right.
2007-02-04 22:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Patience... (LOTS OF PATIENCE)... love... and empathy... will help you to guide your children (and friendships!) through all the various challenges to be experienced.
2007-02-04 22:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by ms_lain_iwakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, clear expectations and consequences, and great communication.
Those are 4 things that cover both.
2007-02-04 21:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everything revolves around listening and communicating.
2007-02-04 21:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
being positive and listen. for freindship basically the same being there for your friend
2007-02-04 21:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by elementsky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋