Me and my best friend have known each other for 4 or so and we have become inseparable. The thing is that when we have sleepovers, we begin to cuddle and hug and massage each other and we eventually begin to kiss and make out.but we never talk about it . I get very jelaous of the thought of her being with another guy. I have a boyfriend, but i dont love him . i do care about him and i want to be with him but sometimes i feeel like im trying to force something thats not there.and i dont think i will have such strong feelings for anyone as i will have for her. We talked about this last night for the first time and she told me that we are like this because we really care for eachother a lot but not on a romantic level. I do see this on a romantic level though and i dont know what to do ...and i also dont know if this means im bi. i an very attrected to guys. im not attracted at all to other girls besides her... what am i and what do i do ?
2007-02-04 13:48:29 · 23 answers · asked by Monica C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I AM NOT ATTRACTED 2 OTHER GIRLS WHATSOEVER.
2007-02-04 14:01:51 · update #1
Have you discussed this with your friend, it sounds like she may have the same feelings. If you are attracted to both boys & girls you may be bi, but that is nothing to be ashamed of. You should be with someone who makes you happy not who society deems you should be with.
2007-02-04 13:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are going through such a tough and confusing time. I have been through a similar mess.
You are quite normal so get it out of your head that your are not normal.
I would first break it off with your boyfriend which might be easier said than done but if you care about him at all then you will do him this favor. Second, you need to stop seeing the girlfriend. She told you that she has no interest in you beyond fooling around and even if she did have feelings you don't need this type of mess. It's time to clean house sweetie. Let them go and then take some time to figure out who you really are. I promise you that it will save you much grief and stress in the long run. Answers to those big questions (who am I) takes time and patience and you will never find out who you are until you let go of the baggage.
Best to you,
Jason
2007-02-04 22:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sleep overs ,sounds like you are probably still in high school. Cool keep doing what comes natural as long as the other girl is willing, you are both just experimenting. I bet neither of you are having sex with your boy friends So if not what you two are doing is relieving your sexually urges and that may keep you from becoming pregnant or catching a std. At some point you both will decide you really like girl or get tired of experimenting and go on with your lives.
2007-02-05 00:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can fall in love with anyone even if they are the same sex. After all you shouldn't love someone for what's on the outside. Also you shouldn't let others opinions hinder your love. The only thing is that you could get hurt if she doesn't love you back. It's the same with every relationship. I had the same experience and it broke my heart. I never felt the same way about women after my experience. I am still attracted to girls but as for acting on anything (before I married my husband) I didn't want to get hurt the same way. I fell in love with a friend. She was a huge flirt and when we fooled around that was the end of it. We knew each other for over two years and there was like a month where we were "intimate" but after I asked her if she'd think about just dating me she told me that she didn't think she was bisexual and she wanted to just be my friend. It turned out that she just liked to make out with me and tell her boy toys the stories so they'd get turned on and want her even more. It was just an act for her and it broke my heart. I love my husband not because he's a man but because of who he is underneath all the physical aspects. I would never hurt him by cheating on him with anyone else, man or woman.
2007-02-04 22:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This sounds exactly what happened with my best friend and me. She saw it on a romantic level, and I didn't, even though I loved cuddling with her. You can't make her love you in the way you want to be loved. I suggest you tell her how you feel, and focus on staying good friends.
2007-02-04 21:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Suzanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you are a bit bisexual. Talk to her and let her know your feelings. Also, talk to your boyfriend and let him know what's going. Really think about what you want...And what she wants. If you are just friends, this could just be a thing in passing, if not...Then where it leads is up to you. Just talk...If she's that good a friend she will listen, and should try to help you out. Good luck.
2007-02-04 21:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by KS 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if you're already cuddling and making out. I don't think there's much to talk about... if you 'love' her, then just go ahead and say it. You could be bi, but you could also possibly be lesbian, cuz if you only care for your boyfriend and love your friend, then you might like girls better.
2007-02-04 21:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Suze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're probably bi if you know she doesnt like you then leave it alone or you will also lose your friend also if u dont have feeeling for your boyfriend break it off your just leading the poor guy on
2007-02-04 21:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by rockabill_queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably means that you are bi, but don't worry about it too much, and don't talk to much to scare her off either. Just stay low for awhile, then bring it up again and talk with her about it later.
2007-02-04 21:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by BATTLEFEAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know what you are and thats 'who' you are by the way.. if you and her are kissing well it doesnt get any more sexual then that. she is probably afraid to let any one else know her feelings because gay people get so much crap from others. just be patient and well you never know what the future brings good luck
well about getting more sexual then kissing it does but you know what I mean
2007-02-04 21:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋