I admit I did not live a happy life but did quite well so far. I survived two marriages and was left alone with a boy of 5. Have no phisical and/or financial problems but I get deeply depressed especialy when my son goes off to see her mother once a week. At such times I beg for a sudden heart attack to disappear without causing a mess. I have all but I don't know how to cope with my loneliness. Additionally I lost my confidence in women and feel nothing towards a new venture with the other sex.
2007-02-04 13:37:43 · 10 answers · asked by sert59bay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are a survivor, no doubt about that. you have to be strong for your son. He needs you right now. If you were to "go", it would be a huge mess. You are a much needed Father right now. Don't ever forget that. You don't have to have a new relationship with a woman. I can see how you have soured towards us. It's okay. Take some time to enjoy yourself. Get out there and find someone to talk too. Join groups or a bowling league. You have plenty of live left ahead of you. Do not give up. Be strong and stay positive. If you cannot cope with your loneliness then see a doctor. Now is not the time to be depressed. Reach out and find some help. And when your son is around, treasure those moments. Take him places and teach him things. Have fun. Please promise us all that you will be okay. You are a worthy human being. Good luck in your future.
2007-02-04 13:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do when life knocks you to your knees is pray. Get involved in some activities (adult activities) in your community. Make a decision to try something new. You need to be well rounded, and have good support to be a good role model for your son. You make think you are hiding your difficulties from your child, but they sense it. Join a church, a bowling league or just start going for coffee once a week. Do you cook? have a hobby? whens your next vacation? lots of things to see and do on the internet? and when you feel your worst remember two things.....its not all about you, there may be someone who could use YOUR help, be of service by making a phone call, paying a visit or sending a card. and two.....even when you are most lonely, there is a crowd of people working just to HELP YOU....just this morning the people at the electric company, the street utilities, the mail, the garbage man they all got up early in the am just so YOU would have the conveniences you take for granted....we're never really alone. Make a plan for times when you feel the worst....and if you find that you can't get through, see a doctor. I'll be praying for you.
2007-02-04 13:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is to keep busy, find something like a hobby, and asks yourself what it is in your youth that you have always wanted to go do. Learn a new language, learn to sail or fly get out there what you need is for the sun to shine in your face I hear doctors recommend it highly. If you stay home a lot, you start to think too much and that can be dangerous that is what causes depression life has so much to offer go with it have fun being sixty years of age is not at all old your just in your prime!
2007-02-04 13:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of problems. You need someone to talk to and who will really listen. You have a 5 year old?? How young was your wife?? Don't know many people who have had a happy life. Me included. I'm 66, live with my daughter and help her with my 8 year old grandson. But it's still better then the alternative.Death! You are so very lucky to have the little one, grow up and give him the life he deserves.
2007-02-04 13:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by ann m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at life in another light besides all the negative. You are healthy unlike lots of other 60 year old men who have really bad health problems and live day to day wondering if they are going to make it or not. You sound as though you have plenty of money. Think of a homeless man who is 60 who is in pain and does not know when he is going to get his next meal. There are lots of people who have children who are very sick and they have to take care of them everyday wondering if they are going to get to see thier kid tomorrow. You are a very lucky man and you need to see the beauty life has to offer. Sounds corny I know but go out and smell the flowers, look at the beautiful sky with the pillowy clouds. Look at the picture God painted for us. We are lucky. Live your life being happy!!! We only live once.
2007-02-04 14:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with life. 60 my god there is so many resources for Senior Citizens. Try senior friend finder. http://seniorfinder.com and their many senior activity centers with all kinds of activies.Bet you might even enjoy their dancing on fridays. So get out of your rut.Since money is no problem take a criuse.Fly to the Carribean. Come on now really.
2007-02-04 13:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Welcome to the big club!
You need to talk to somebody.First things first.
See a Dr. about depression and have him recommend a therapist.
join the community choir and drama club and just take a teenie part . Mostly you will gain confidence and meet some new people
all looking for you to keep them company!
If you don't put your hand out,buddy you will be a very lonesome man next week-end too.
2007-02-04 13:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's that movie? because i said so? she has the same problem. you will find someone, life will get better. at least i sure as hell hope so because i am only 19 and in your position, so i doubt i will get a heart attack any time soon.
2007-02-04 13:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, your Depressed!
Please see the doctor for some help
tell them what you told us!
good luck
2007-02-04 13:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please explain more about the boy of five.
2007-02-04 13:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by cc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋