My sister in law just found out that her husband got another woman pregnant. She is also pregnant and they have a 5 month old baby too. Should she stay with him and work it out or leave him?
2007-02-04 13:16:11 · 36 answers · asked by Jill 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the best circumstances, as a husband and wife they should slowly rebuild their marriage. They made a commitment to each other, and shared a love and life together. If he is willing to leave the affair and end the romantic relationship with her, and commit to your sister then that's the best. Your sister can be patient and try to show him love, maybe that could help convince him. However if he still wishes to continue the affair, then this is not meant for marriage and yes, under these circumstances, she should leave him.
2007-02-04 16:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by bleu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! Hard situation to be in. Well tell me, is this his first and only time he has cheated in the marriage? Is he sorry for it? Does he act regretful about his actions? Is he willing to change and never do it again? If there is any chance he is truly sorry and won't do it again, then she should consider staying. Especially for the sake of the child.
If he doesn't appear sorry or regretful, she should leave but after the baby is born. Let him see the child, maybe seeing it and then knowing his wife and the baby will leave him will leave an impression on him he will never forget and perhaps he will then feel sorry..... but then it will be too late.
If your sister in law didn't have the child I would say to her leave now, leave fast, don't look back, he's not good at all! But because of the child, things are more complicated. It's really a decision only your sister in law can make, obviously. She knows the man better than anyone. Good luck to her. It's a bad situation to be in.
2007-02-04 13:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by night_breeze2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should run as fast as she possibly can away. Men usually start to lose interest as children get older, her baby is only 5 months!! There are so many great men out there, she should not waste her time on one who obviously cares so little about her and their children. She already has a great family (otherwise why would her sister in law be even consulting the internet for help?) and I'm sure you guys will all support her. Just let her know that you're there for her and everyone will be more than happy to help her leave him! The alternative is that she stays with a man who is out fathering other children and does not love her or their children for years before she finally has had enough. Tell her to get out now!
2007-02-04 13:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one considering she's pregnant and have a 5 month old. I would put him out of the house till he gets his act together.
Divorce is an option, but for the sake of the baby being so young I would suggest mutual counselling...however there is another woman in the equation pregnant.
2007-02-04 13:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, not only that he cheated while she is taking care of the 5 month old baby, and having another one, but he went all the way and get another woman pregnant too. What is he , a Mormon? Leave the SOB, take everything he owns, and live your life well with your kids. All the best.
2007-02-04 13:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really a decision she needs to make on her own. I say once a cheater, always a cheater and it's not even that he cheated on her and now they can work through it, he got another woman pregnant. Personally I think she should move on because with the other woman also having his child she will always be there, so who's to say when they get into a fight or something that he won't go running back to her anyway. Good luck to your sister.
2007-02-04 13:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by lisa h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG how horrible. I hate men like this! How can they justify this behavior? It depends how awful he is. I have just decided to leave my boyfriend and I am 18 weeks pregnant. He is a liar and a cheater and a drug abuser. The baby and I are going to be better off. What kind of life do they have together? It really depends on how awful he is I guess and how she feels about the whole thing. I truly feel bad for her as I know exactly how it feels.
2007-02-04 13:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say there is more to this situation than can be told in a short time. If they can see to work out the issue at hand mutually then they should remain together. If they are unable to get past this it would be in the best interest of them, as well as the children, to not stay together. To each their own. May the best outcome for them be found.
2007-02-04 13:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by angelskisses75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this is a good one for Dr. Phil to solve! If not it wouldn't hurt for some major counseling to go on. It would be very hard to live with the idea of knowing he has another child to take care of, I don't think it would be a healthy environment for the child to grow up in. The sad thing is that he didn't think about what both children are going to grow up probably without a father.
2007-02-04 13:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by cookiestn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he husband want to stay with her and work on the marriage or does he want to be with the other woman??? She needs to find this out... If he wants the marriage then she needs to stay with him and try to make it work with marriage counseling and things BUT if he wants the other woman then she needs to kick him out or leave him and move on with her life... He still however is the father of both babies so he will have to be involved in both kids lives no matter what and who he chooses to be with.
2007-02-04 13:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋