Me and my best friend have known each other for 4 or so and we have become inseparable. The thing is that when we have sleepovers, we begin to cuddle and hug and massage each other and we eventually begin to kiss and make out. I get very jelaous of the thought of her being with another guy. I have a boyfriend, but i dont love him and i dont think i will have such strong feelings for anyone as i will have for her. We talked about this last night and she told me that we are like this because we really care for eachother a lot but not on a romantic level. I do see this on a romantic level though and i dont know what to do ...and i also dont know if this means im bi. i an very attrected to guys. im not attracted at all to other girls besides her... what am i and what do i do ?
2007-02-04 13:10:19 · 7 answers · asked by Monica C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Me and my best friend have known each other for 4 or so and we have become inseparable. The thing is that when we have sleepovers, we begin to cuddle and hug and massage each other and we eventually begin to kiss and make out.but we never talk about it . I get very jelaous of the thought of her being with another guy. I have a boyfriend, but i dont love him . i do care about him and i want to be with him but sometimes i feeel like im trying to force something thats not there.and i dont think i will have such strong feelings for anyone as i will have for her. We talked about this last night for the first time and she told me that we are like this because we really care for eachother a lot but not on a romantic level. I do see this on a romantic level though and i dont know what to do ...and i also dont know if this means im bi. i an very attrected to guys. im not attracted at all to other girls besides her... what am i and what do i do ?
2007-02-04 13:23:57 · update #1
First of all, if you don't like your boyfriend break up with him. Experiment a little with other girls, beyond your usually spectrum. Maybe you are bi, and maybe you're not. Do some soul searching, and you'll reach a conclusion.
2007-02-04 13:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I have no answer really.. but I am sort of in the same situation as you. I have been best friends with this girl for about two years. and I have never really thought I was "gay" before. I experimented when I was a kid, but now when she stays the night at my house we cuddle. but I pretend to be asleep... if that makes any since. I'm not "out" about it, and I am afriad that if I tell her I will lose her friendship with her. She sometimes acts as if she likes me or is attracted to me but then if the topic of being gay comes up she freaks out like a homifob... I can't tell if she is putting on a show like me, or if she really has feelings. I want to tell her how I feel more than anything but I am so afraid! ...I am sorry I didn't answer your question, but it is really nice to know that someone else out there is going through the same problems as I am.
2007-02-07 17:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her how you feel, just because I can't keep a secret. But be aware that might change your relationship forever. Once you tell her, there's no going back. It could even separate you both, if she's not comfortable with the situation. But on the other hand, this might be the push she needs to come forward about her feelings.
You should check out a movie called "All Over Me"...it's about a 15-year-old girl in the same situation as you.
Good Luck!!
2007-02-04 13:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by amaya m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could be bi you more and likely are bi.
I felt the same way toward my best friend.I finally got up the courage to tell her i was bi and that i liked her.I had no idea she felt the same way for all i knew she was straight.Well i told her and when i did she looked at me smiled and told me she was the same exact way and that she also liked me.I was soo shocked.to this day i have NEVER found something to even come CLOSE to the way i felt when she told me she felt the same way.On Febuary 14th(Valentine's Day)We will be together for a year and i do have to say that I love her more than anything so what im saying is this...TELL HER.Words left unspoken leads to hearts that are broken.Point is tell her and if she doesnt like you then it wasnt ment to be.
If u have any questions ask me,
Ash
2007-02-04 13:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by xASHx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like your relationship is well on its way to being more than just friends. People that are just friends don't make out with each other. That's more of a romantic expression.
2007-02-04 13:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this means that you fell for someone and it just happened to be a girl,this doesn't necessarily mean that you are bi or lesbian,you just fell for someone.Now back to the subject
I think you should tell your friend that you feel your feelings extend beyond just a platonic relationship.Tell her you have romantic feelings toward her.
Just be honest with her and see where it takes you.
2007-02-04 13:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by 17-4serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is right....the truth is....you fall for who you fall for...boy or girl...
2007-02-04 13:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by adriboho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋