I didn't tell my friend that i was seeing one of my brothers friends (because i had to keep it from him 2 for a while, but its out now) I knew that she knew, but didn't say anything to her.
She isn't talking to me now because "she is my best friend and i shouldn't keep anything from her" according to her. But i kept it from a few people until it was all out in the open with my brother.
And because i didn't tell her, apparently i have put a guy inbetween our relationship, but there's plenty of other things i dont tell her or anyone.
SO, she isn't talking to me now, do you think thats childish on her behalf or am i a bad friend.
We've known each other for about 14 years (am 20 now) so thats basically all my life.... but to tell you the truth, i dont miss her one bit!!
2007-02-04 12:54:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your relationship has grown apart. Perhaps you can remain "not such close" friends. But since you say, you don't miss her, tell her you appreciate her friendship over the years, but you don't accept her "condemnation" of your actions.
You are entitled to do what you want to in these situations. If a "good friend" decides not to talk to you, then she is trying to punish you. It's the same old story everybody learns through the Bible and government... set up laws, people break the laws and the "government" will "cast you out" (with monetary fines, or imprisonment). She is acting like she sets the rules. She doesn't. Tell her if she can't accept you as you are, then she is not the "good friend" you thought she was. Is is not a matter of she is right or your being right. If you are friends, you have to accept each other as you are and "agree to disagree" on things like this. Perhaps you can chat with her and create a new and better friendship through understanding, or else you both will have to move on.
2007-02-04 13:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by LuvDylan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the reason you probably don't miss her right now is because 1-you are angry with her, and 2-you got a new man to pay attention to. Maybe you should have told her, maybe not. She is acting a little childish, and I am sure she is probably just hurt. Keep in mind that men come and go, but your friends, true friends, will be forever. Haha, they will be the ones consoling you, and talking smack about "that loser" while pigging out on chocolate frosting with you if things should ever go awry.
2007-02-04 21:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by HotMommaM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i believe if you dont miss her then there is no need to be writing about her, just move on with your life and she really wants you as a friend she will come running back, but i am sure it wont matter either way if she does or doesnt, so be happy you got a guy and that you dont need your friend cause you can make plenty more.
2007-02-04 21:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you had a right to keep something to yourself. a friend would understand that - just because u kept it inside didn't mean anything. she sounds spoiled and selfish. i would not worry about it and if she's a true friend, she will move forward and not even bring it up. if not, let her go. you don't deserve friends who try to make you feel guilty for not doing anything wrong. sucks i know as i went through a similar thing last year and now my best friend of 10 years don't even call anymore...but if she let a petty thing come between us, it's okay. harbor no hard feeling but just move on.
2007-02-04 21:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Potato Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats rediculous. to end a friendship over a guy?
only if you want to fix things, go for it.
you could aways say you and your brothers friend were trying to keep things on the down low and you wanted to make sure until you spread the news.
2007-02-04 20:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by xcelticsbabee34x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is falling in love with you because you guys been seeing bout 14yrs!! wow! that mean she knows about u a lot and if she lighten up around you and really and i mean really smiley she has a crush on you and if she knows that you have a been seeing some one there is a possibility she'll be jealous of the person you are seeing right now.
2007-02-04 21:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by jokerbaby1994 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i dont think you were being a bad friend and if your 20 that is kinda childish to
1.hide it comeon your an "adult" now and
2.get mad over that small of a thing(your friend)
well that all i really got so.....
2007-02-04 21:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by ??sam?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say so. i doesn't seem like you want to continue the friendship, so if she comes back you can say "you weren't enough of a friend to understand why i had to do what i did. we don't have anything more to talk about"
2007-02-04 20:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that happened between my best friend and me....it got better though....and we are still best friends
2007-02-04 20:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by ilikepink29@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋