my bf and i are both in our mid 30s and he asked me to marry him.hes divorced with a child,little savings,and a debt of 18k.i'm never married,100k in stocks,bonds,savings, and no children.i love him dearly and plan on staying with him till death but you never know what the future holds.i just would hate to see all my money that i worked so hard for go to his exwife.what do u think if u were in my spot what would u do?
2007-02-04 12:53:19 · 10 answers · asked by karenbshy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's smart to want a pre-nup, but I disagree with some of the other posters who make it sound like a normal person wouldn't be at least a little hurt. I like to think that anyone who would marry me would also think I was the kind of decent person who wouldn't try to extort extra money from them if things didn't work out - and while asking him to sign one doesn't mean that you think he would try to take your money, I think anyone would at least kind of take it that way. He obviously has far fewer assets and far more liabilities than you, and that is probably already a sense of insecurity.
My suggestion is to definitely insist on the pre-nup, but maybe fudge a little and make it sound like your lawyer or your dad is convinced it is a good idea. You're definitely not in the wrong to ask for it, but making it sound like a formality instead of a desire would probably make the idea much more palatable.
2007-02-04 13:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think that it is smart to protect yourself and your assets. though you and your fiance love each other, and say that nothing will happen, things do happen and by signing the pre-nup you are just making sure that if something happened, then you will be protected. all that you have saved and worked for, you dont want to lose. all that to say.......YES!!!!!!
and being a woman to bring up the pre-nup is definatley smart! girls are labeled as gold diggers, but there are guys out there with the same thoughts!
2007-02-04 13:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by ilovemymercedes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you signing a prenup shouldn't be a problem. I signed a prenup before getting married and didn't hesitate. I love my
wife for who she is not what she has. If he has a problem signing
I would forget him. You won't regret it in the long run. I imagine his
ex is hoping you do get married without said document. She will
then take not only him but you for everything you have.
2007-02-04 13:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pre nup is for people who value what theyve built up. the answer is yours
2007-02-04 13:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by dove2surf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right to make him sign a pre-nup you have to protect what you have because you never know what may happen in the future...
2007-02-08 04:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,if he loves you he will sign without giving it a second thought.In this world we have to protect ourselves,and sometimes from the ones we love.The sad part is you can`t get the lawyers to sign it too.The lawyers always will get more than a fair share.
2007-02-04 13:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-nup. 'Bout time women started thinking about their financial well-being. Good for you.
2007-02-04 12:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are using your brain get that pre nup in order first and be sure it,s legal with no catches involved
2007-02-04 13:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this world today we have to protect ourself. If he loves you he will understand, and maybe in time you can change it.
2007-02-08 09:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is strong...if you truly love him, you would trust that you wouldnt have to worry about that happening.
2007-02-04 13:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by okay. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋