13 years old and pregnant..HELP!!?

Question

I had sex with this 16 year old and the condom broke. I was so scared so i got a pregnancy test, and it was positive. My stomach is starting to get bigger and i dont know what to do. I still havnt told my mom. I am really scared to, because when my sister got pregnant at the age of 15 my mom sent her to a youth home. It was an accident and i need help .?!?!?!?

Answer 1

hello, just want to tell you that you are going to have to be positive and honest with yourself, your parents and the babies father. i have expierence with teenage pregnacy. i am a mum of a 6 year old and a two year old. i am 22. i also work with young mums.

why did your mum kick your sister to a youth home??????????? that was a stupid and immature decision, on your mums behalf!!!! i am so dissapointed in her and ashamed and i dont even know her!

i have completed all my schooling and even gone to university. i am still with the father of both my kids. i have only been with him, meaning i have only slept with him.

you have nothing to be ashamed of because accidents happen and mistakes occur. i have no idea why you are sexually active at 13 and why a 16 years old is having sex with a 13 year old but that is not the biggest issue here. you are having a baby and no matter how far away a youth house, or whatever it was, is or how far away an adoption or abbortion happens it still does happen. you will never forget it and possibly always regret it.

you need to think for your baby and do some major growing up quickly cause it will be here soon (this is not meant to offend you but be honest). get some solid advice and probably dont get it from your mum, cause i am really not sure about her advice or parental influence. she is your mum and should be there to help you not push you away to a youth house, that is just wrong in my opinion.

if you want to keep the baby, do but be prepared to acept help because it is not easy, especially when your young and posibally not going to be with the father. if you want to adopt out or abort this baby then get advice and go from there together. people make a better team when they work together.

you can achieve anything when you believe in yourself and you have the right guidence.

Answer 2

Don't even bother thinking twice about what all those rude people are telling you about "spreading your legs" you're not here to be insulted so dont worry about them. Honestly, you should tell your mom, although there is the abortion option and depending on which state your in, you may need a parent or may not. Accidents happen and sit your mom down and talk to her calmly and as adult as possible (since now you will be considered an adult). Tell her you do not want to go to a youth home and tell her whether you want the child or not, she may be able to help you. She will be mad at first and you will be scared but doing this will make you stronger. If you cannot flat out say it to her, write her a letter telling her how it happened and why it happened, then write to her how you do not want to go to a youth home give good reasons why. When you finish that letter sit down with her while she reads it. Tell her to finish reading the whole thing before she says anything. And if she sends you to a home, it's okay, it's justa bump in the road that you will get over. Accidents happen and all you can do is learn from them. But whether the outcome be abortion, adoption, keeping the baby, or going to that youth home, you will be okay in the end. But you do need to tell the father. I wish you luck and if you wanna talk ( I wont insult you like some of these a**holes) then e-mail me. I wish you luck!

Answer 3

First of all your a child but your old enogh to know that its possible that you could end up pregnant. And now u r and so your paying the price. Your mom is gonna find out by you telling her or not. Wouldn't you want to know when your child turns 13 if she's having sex or even pregnant. Except the affect of every cause. Next time you'll know to just not have sex and you wont have to worry about going through it again. I'm not being mean just hard so you can understand. Good Luck.

Answer 4

first of all hon i want you to understand something. an accident is when you stub your toe, or break a glass.

having sex (even protected sex) is NOT an accident. that was preventable, this is called a mistake. everyone makes them.
you need to tell your mother. I'm so sorry that you didn't learn from your sister's mistake.
the boy's parents need to be informed.
I'm sorry that your mother didn't know how to handle your sister's pregnancy properly, but hon, your not alone.

i got pregnant right before i turned 20, i was a older than you...but i was still living at home, and going to school. i freaked out and ran off with the father w/out telling my family. that was a HUGE mistake! that hurt my mom and dad a lot. and things didn't work out with the father of my son.
my son is almost 9yrs old now, i love him dearly...i had to grow up very fast because of my mistake, and that is what you will have to do too.
call a teen pregnancy hot-line and talk to someone. seek out a councilor at school or the mom of a friend, someone that will be a support to you when you do tell your mother.

where is you dad? can he help you?

Answer 5

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry, I really do feel for you but I'm sure you've heard this and I'm going to say it again. If you were having sex, you had to of known that pregnancy was a risk. You're so young, and have so much growing up to do, but everything will be okay, I think everything happens for a reason, and I don't think you would have got pregnant if there wasnt a purpose for it. You should really talk to your mom, maybe you need to tell her you don't want to go to a youth home, you have to realize though with you being 13 she's going to be mad. But you have to talk to her. Even though you can't see it now, everything will be okay. Good luck sweetie

Answer 6

So why didnt you think of going to a youth home when you were sleeping with this boy in the first place. Jeez girl your still a child my little brother is your age and doesnt even think of that!!!
Your going to have to tell your mum she has a right to know now before its too late to do anything about it. This boy is a pedofile! taking advantage of a CHILD go to your doctor and get the pregnancy confirmed tell the 16 yr old you slept with that you need help because he put it there! your a very silly girl talk to your mum now before it gets worse

Answer 7

Mistakes happen, and its obviously too late to go back and change anything. When u make an adult decision like having sex, you need to realize theres a chance u will have to make other decisions like having a baby. Theres no way u will be able to hide this nor should u. U now need to grow up and deal with it like an adult would by facing it, and speaking to ur mom. I hope everything works out and I also hope you and your mom are able to be there for each other and she doesnt make the mistake of sending u away for this. Take care.....and im sorry u threw away the freedoms of being a 13 yr old....

Answer 8

Yesterday you said you've never even made out with a boy. How did you get pregnant and showing so quick? Also if any of this is true, what the heck are you doing having sex at 13? You shouldn't be having sex if you can't deal with the consequences.

Answer 9

My God! You're only 13! What are you doing having sex?! Did you not learn anything about the consequences when your sister got pregnant? You need to tell your mom. I understand that you're scared but you have to accept responsibility for what you did. If you think you're old enough to be having sex (protected or not) then you're old enough to toughen up and tell your parents.

Answer 10

U shoudldnt be having sex at 13 first of all..secondly u need to tell them asap..try going to a free clinic or a counselor and tell them there so u have some support...either way they must know and u need to see a doctor...u are old enough to have sex now,u are old enough to have a baby...next time no sex, your just a baby yourself =\