I am surrounded by my in-laws, my husband moved back and we
get along the same as we did but worse. I still want my divorce,
but everyone is saying that just because he is living in the home
I won't be granted my divorce. Is this true? If so, why?
I do not want to be married to him any longer. His family is very
controlling and for some reason his mother and father both will
be at the hearing. I am scared that the judge will make me stay
married. My family is far away so I have noone on my side, and
we have three children.Please help me.
2007-02-04 12:08:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He moved back in because I had no job at
the time. He was living with his mother
and neither of us could afford to get
our own place. I felt sorry for him and the
kids didn't like being around mamaw
when they were down there because
she played boss not daddy.
2007-02-04 12:54:54 · update #1
Why did you let him back in if its really over and you want the divorce? I dont know what exactly will happen, depends on the state you live in and what their requirements are.
2007-02-04 12:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get the divorce if you tell the judge that you don't know why he came back. The problem is that you don't have anyone around you. The judge will be told that you are not a good mother and all these people will gang up on you. You need to be strong here for your children. Tell the judge that you are aware of the one sided family problem. However, it doesn't matter, since you can be handling the kids and your job too. Make your case strong. Please tell me you didn't go for a bargain basement lawyer, or are using his! You need a mean lawyer here. Plus you need to be ...not nice! Now after all this good advice let me give you better advice....Don't get the divorce! You are in a poor position to get custody of the children! Things could backfire on you so easily! Get back together and try to make it work, but don't take any garbage from him! When you have a better situation then file again, closer to your family though! I know this sounds manipulative but if he has cheated, there is no reason to stay with him. And that better be the reason for the divorce and not some "I just don't love him anymore" garbage! Otherwise I'm on his side!
2007-02-04 12:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not in a hurry because he doesn't plan on getting married any time soon again. As a matter of fact still being "legally married" with plans somewhere in the future to divorce is a great way to say " I'm definately not interested in getting serious with anyone new". Also he may feel that legally making himself single is not worth the "waste" of money at this time. You don't have money to file so why bother trying to talk with him. File for uncontested divorce, it's cheaper...it means you aren't fighting for anything. The court will serve him notice of divorce, if he chooses not to show up for the court hearing it doesn't matter. He doesn't have to be there for it to become final. Just makes it all go in your favor. Leave him alone. Save $100 a month for 7 to 12 months and you will have enough money to pay for the divorce yourself! $25 a week...will you save that so you can move on with your life?
2016-05-24 08:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what State you live in but I know alot pf people live together during a divorce becasue they cant afford to live seperate. AND a judge cannot make you stay married. If you are low income see if you can get free legal aid. If things are bad you are right to pursue the divorce. Do you have an attorney? How did you start the divorce?
2007-02-04 12:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect the reason he moved back is because his lawyer told him that if he wants the house in the divorce settlement he better move home. Now he will try to make life so miserable for you that you will move out and he will be in possession of the house.
Lady, you need a lawyer...... and - no law on any book nor any judge can force to to stay married.......
2007-02-04 16:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He moved back due to financial reasons, explain that to the judge. But you have to define boundaries (not sleeping together, etc) and no common bank accounts, etc., everything that a divorce is supposed to be. Obviously, if you want the divorce, you also will have to bear with the consequences and inconveniences, which is mainly financial based on what you said.
2007-02-04 12:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his living in the same house is not a reason for a judge not to grant your divorce. Talk to your lawyer but shouldn't even be and issue really especially after you explain why hes moved in. good luck
2007-02-04 16:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by survivedlasvegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be able to still get the divorce.... What reason did you file for.... talk with your attorney and ask them about this as well... Why did you allow him to move back home if this is only worse? Ask him to leave or you leave with the kids .
2007-02-04 12:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info...why do you want a divorce? God hates divorce......the only reason divorce is allowed is because of marital unfaithfulness....pray.....prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives...Jesus loves you
2007-02-04 13:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not true at all...you can still get it no matter where he resides
2007-02-04 12:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by tot tot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋