I told someone in my family that they were hurting my feelings. They didn't hear me and laughed me off. Finally, in my 30's I am tired of it. I emailed them and told them 4 points that i would no longer accept (things they said or did that hurt my feelings). They got very angry and told me that I am serious, over sentive and very manipultive. that I am making a moutian out of a mole hill. Even if this person is right... don't my feelings still count? Even if these things are true.. don't I still get to say what bothers me?
2007-02-04 12:03:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everyones feelings count . Sounds like this person is deflecting onto you so they dont' have to look at themselves
2007-02-04 12:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would answer that they are IN-sensitive, and that I feel I have to manipulate to be heard or get my point across, and that I am pursuing the point because I care about the relationship, and want it to be a healthy one.
Someone else does NOT get to decide what is a mountain or a mole hill to me, just the same as I don't get to decide that for them. Just because the issue doesn't mean anything to them doesn't lessen the meaning for you, and in a moment of calmness, I would explain that. Everything is relative!
2007-02-04 12:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by NorthvilleNY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings always count. Remember everyone has their own point of view.
Why do you say you are being manipulative? It sounds like you just aren't agreeing with your families opinions.
A few sessions with a therapist, may help you realize, that you aren't always wrong, and are entitled to your own opinion.
2007-02-04 12:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely your feelings count.. And yes you should express how you feel when something bothers you. (We have to respect ourselves first or others won't respect us). Some people you can express how you feel and you can have a mature talk about it. Others you just have to say what you feel, move on and don't let it bother you.. I hope you can work things out...
2007-02-04 12:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your feelings count. People need to be sensitive and realize when they are hurting other people's feelings. They should pay attention.
2007-02-04 12:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Q_142857 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 10:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by gizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one has feelings and they should count even if they are manipulative, serious and over sensitive.
2007-02-04 12:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good
2007-02-04 12:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely they count.
2007-02-04 12:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by earthmother6224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and you should express your feelings and don't listen to what they said about you, you seem cool to me
2007-02-04 12:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋