bored with him and have dreams about being with other men. I wish he would kiss me and treat me like the guys in my dreams.
2007-02-04 12:00:17 · 18 answers · asked by LETICIA P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say I love you everyday and we are in love, but I want the relationship to be like it was at first. I think I need to do something to get him to lust after me like he use to any ideas?
2007-02-04 13:20:59 · update #1
Maybe you should try treating him like the girls in his dreams, try surprising him with something sexy when he gets home from work.....
2007-02-04 12:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Fester Frump 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm sorry, but it isn't your fault that he's become complacent. It isn't your job to just shut up and be happy. I don't care what anyone tells you, but you can have the kind of relationship you want (Especially if he isn't an abuser or doesn't have a drinking problem) You mentioned a newborn baby.. well I hate to say it but sometimes that is the change that changes the relationship dynamic. It is hard to have to ask a man to be romantic because spontaneity doesn't go hand in hand with a new born. It is not wrong of you to crave fun or to want a connection. Do you have common interests that brought you together? Try and remember things you use to like to do or things he likes to do. You could have a sweet talk with him and tell him that he has to plan a surprise date once a month . If he still doesn't seem interested in meeting you halfway then you need to have an honest discussion about wether or not he is happy and what he expects out of the relationship and what your needs are. Life can be really hard with a newborn and they do require most of the attention and romance can fall by the wayside with the added pressure and stress. I would give it time and and be patient and find other things that make you feel fulfilled while you are working on that. Also buying a new bra and panties set doesn't hurt either. Sometimes you have to be direct with men and just tell them what you need in a nice way. Like,' I need you to plan a hot date this Friday because I want to have fun with you" or.. "I want to have a candlight bath with you and show you my new panties" if that doesn't excite him then I do not know what to tell you.
2016-03-15 06:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the first move and start being more affectionate towards him. If you give you will receive. See what happens. Don't betray the bond of marriage and your husband by cheating. Your husband is a good guy and sometimes he needs more love from his wife. I guarantee if you make the first move, he'll give you the same and then some. Hope this helps.
2007-02-04 12:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leticia I know what you mean. I've been married now for 10 years and it often seems hubby is more into TV or computer more than me. You need to sit him down and talk. Tell him what is on your mind and perhaps make a date with him, that he needs to keep with you. I have made such date with my hubby and we had a GREAT time. I have just started this thing so I'll see how it goes. He does like me to be the instigator, but sometimes i'd like for him to be less submissive and more manly LOL . Tell your hubby how you feel. Hope everything works out
2007-02-04 12:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by venusintexas35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like someone else said that no guy is like your fantasies. You need to talk to him. My husband was romantic when we first got together but we had nothing else to do but now we both aren't all that romantic and that happens but we've talked about it and we do hug and kiss each other and hold each other and tell each other we love each other we just don't do it all the time. You really need to have a talk with him. If you truely love him and want it to work out then talk to him.
2007-02-04 12:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're getting bored with him. Unfortunately, the honeymoon don't last forever. What I think is happening is that you are missing the attention and romance that he used to give you and it's showing up in your dreams.
Marriage goes through many stages. He is comfortable with you and I think he's feeling that he don't have to be romantic anymore. I'd have a talk with him and let him know how much you miss it.
2007-02-04 12:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try romancing him once in a while.... Work on being a loving and romantic wife to him and make HIM be your dream guy and not the others. Fall in love with your husband all over again. See if he is open to marriage counseling at all. Try sitting with him while he watches tv and cuddle up next to him... He just may respond to this you know. Love him where he is at and spend time with him doing things that he likes to do... Also when he is at work meet with him on his lunch break or call him at work on his cell just to say hi and that you miss and love him! As women we can set the pace and mood for our husbands at times. Just some suggestions. You can take it or leave it.
2007-02-04 12:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy he isn't out running around with other women.Try fixing yourself up and have a candle lit dinner waiting for him and some nice soft music playing. Go to him when he walks in the door put your arms around him and lay one on him, tell him you love him. Let him know you want to make love.
2007-02-04 12:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to begin by talking to him and see where it goes and if not you can always initate because you are his wife! It is a hard situation and most times that men forget how important intamcy is and you need to make a decision to make your marriage works and that you want let these men go pass your dreams!
2007-02-04 12:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to visit a marriage or sex counselor. Find out where his fire went through him or a counselor. Chase it down and get it back ASAP!
2007-02-04 12:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Morality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lucky he work's mine wouldn't work and he sat on his *** drinking malt liquor and beer so quit complaining and be happy he 's got a job quit nagging or you'll lose your husband tell him to kiss you if you would quit gripping he might pay more attention to you
2007-02-08 11:35:38 · answer #11 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋