If I masturbate by fingering myself will my first time still hurt?

Answer 1

It can hurt girls and women to have sex, but for the most part the idea that it hurts the first time is pure myth that a lot of girls and women perpetuate because they simply don't know any better or because they felt pain and thinking it was normal just carried on suffering during sex.

Masturbating won't exactly change that, it will however help you learn about your body so you know how it works, what happens when you are aroused and what you would like your partner to do during sex to make sure you are turned on and have a good experience during sex – which in itself will help, see below.

Sex the first time can hurt normally due to a few common reasons;

-Hymen breaking – this can be painful, but it is just as likely to be pleasurable or have no feeling at all, a lot of girls hymens are broken before penetrative sex such as from masturbation, so this is not an issue for them.

-Not being emotionally ready – a lot of girls and women convince themselves they are ready for sex when really they are not, they either feel pressured by friends or their partners, if not ready they will not enjoy sex and it will make sex difficult. If a girl believes sex will be painful it will be painful because they will tense up making it hard for the vagina to stretch as it should.

-Not being physically ready – only 30% of women orgasm from penetrative penis to vaginal sex, women's bodies simply are not made to be stimulated by penetration alone so need sex before penetration (i.e. foreplay) I order to make sure the vagina is lubricated enough, elongated enough, flexible enough and to make sure the clitoris is stimulated enough.

If you are educated, wait till the right time and have sex with someone you love and trust who can turn you on and accepts that you need pleasure too then there is no reason for pain past physical or psychological problems. Sex is not like on TV, women don't instantly scream with pleasure from the slightest touch of a man, it is often awkward and messy particularly the first time – but again, when you are ready it will all work out fine as you'll be having sex because you want to share that with your partner, so the actual act of sex isn't so much the issue it's the emotions that would count.

One of the best articles on this ever written was by Scarleteen, the site is aimed at teen girls mostly however I know it helps a lot of women too, this article goes through in a simple and non-patronising way why sex could hurt and what to do about it, I seriously recommend you read through it - http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/owtowow.html - From Ow! To Wow!

Some more links you should check out;

http://www.sexwithoutpain.com
http://www.the-clitoris.com
http://www.scarleteen.com
http://www.myvag.net
http://www.vaginaverite.com
http://www.sexinfo101.com
http://www.infosex.com
http://www.sxetc.org

Answer 2

There is no reason for masturbation to hurt the first time you do it. Don't break your hymen. Just caress your clit.
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Answer 3

first or any time - if you handle carefully, slowly - caress your clit
will not hurt or damage the hymn

Answer 4

You know what? Anyone with a brain betwen their ears should realize you're too young for sex and shouldn't be giving you information. What's wrong with these people? I bet if it were their daughter, they wouldn't be so quick to advise.

Answer 5

everyone is different not everyones first time hurts
it's hard to say really

Answer 6

ya may be

Answer 7

im not sure maybe......or u might not have any walls left......