I need help on how to....
2007-02-04 11:38:54 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When i was about 20 or so my (future) partner and I decided to purchase a house and live together. We thought it best to tell our parents of our decision. I only had my mother by then. Her reply was " I wondered why there never seemed to be any boys around. I had always hoped for grand children, but Gwenneth is a beautiful person. Love her and be kind to her."
I never heard what Gwenneth's parents said but after reading their reply to our housewarming invitation I was shocked and even more determined to support my love in every way possible.
A little off the track perhaps, but at the housewarming we had my mother, my brother and his fiance. After the meal, Gwen and I declared our love, toasts were drunk and we were as happy a couple as if we had been united in St Giles Cathedral in Edinburgh
Catriona Isobel Rose P.
PS My brother and his lovely lady have the children that my mother longed for and we were all accepted. Mother and Gwen are gone now, but their memory strengthens me. RP.
2007-02-04 14:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was hard for me at first, I hid it for years. I tried when I was 14, and my mom just did NOT have it, so I played it off like I was joking. Then I said I was bi, and pretended at that for a few years. Finally last year I went out for my 21st birthday, got drunk, came home and said "Mom, I have something to tell you, and you're not going to like it, but I can't help that. I'm gay. And now, I'm going to bed."
Talk about shock, lol. I certainly don't recommend that, but you have to take your situation into consideration as well.
Are you still living at home? Is there a chance your parents will put you out, or give you a reaction you're not sure you want to deal with? What are their perceptions of gay people? I'm not saying it will be easy. Some parents take it all in stride, and some take to it like an allergy. Only you can know for sure, and even then it's a half chance.
If you need to talk, though, you can IM me.
2007-02-04 11:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for myself, but my best friend has opened up to her mother about it. After which, her mother started ferverently praying for her, trying to "get the devil out of her" as she put it (she is a zealous Christian). After praying didn't work she tried to bribe my friend with money just so that she would leave her gf. After all of her attempts failed, she broke all contact with her daughter. It has been a year now and she refuses to speak with her still. However, my friend's girlfriend's parents were much more accepting and she didn't have to tell them anything..she was always a tomboy, therefore it wasn't a shock to them when she told them. I don't think there is a right way to open up about this...just be prepared for any reaction because some parents get furious, while others are more open-minded. You know your parents better than anyone of us here, so you're the one who is best able to come up with a way to approach this issue. Just tell them...there is no cookie cutter way to go about this, no matter how you put it the message to them will be "our daughter is gay," so save yourself the effort, and just tell them like it is. Tell them that it's not a "phase" and that this is a part of who you are and it would mean a lot to you if they can accept you as you are and support you even if they don't agree with your choice.
2007-02-04 11:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite a big issue, but it depends so much on your individual situation. In my case, I have very oldfashioned and traditional parents (especially my dad), but I had a lot of support from my brother.
An other good thing was that my parents were already grandparents when I told them...this made it kind of easier because they didn't rely on me to carry on the "family line". If you want to discuss it more please feel free to mail me.
2007-02-05 08:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that must be some tough decision. Im completly straight, but my advise to you, is to find the right time and just tell them. Make sure you dont tell them in public, they should both be together. Think of what to say before you say it. Before admitting it, warn them that they may not want to hear it or so forth. They will still love you no matter what orientation you are. Best of luck!!! :)
2007-02-04 11:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard, very hard. Its something that can make parents deny their own children, which is incredibly hard for me to believe people do. I told my mom over an email, just got everything out at once. She "accepts" me and is "ok" with it, but to me she still acts like its a disease. She acts like I have cancer and she wants to know why her child is gay. If there were a cure I'm sure she'd want me to get it. I would NEVER want to be cured. I love my life.
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2007-02-04 13:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by oralwish w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my kid told me she was gay i would take her to the doctor for hormone treatments
2007-02-04 11:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 8⤋