find some groups to get involved with maybe volunteer your time to a local animal shelter or something . Keep yourself busy that way time will pass quickly . good luck .
2007-02-04 11:36:43
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answered by Kate T. 7
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You won't hear from him for maybe the first week or two. Because during zero week they are being processed, having dental work done , etc.
They only have one day for mailing letters, so you'll recieve a bunch of letters at once.
Try to write him as often as you can.
Send pictures.
Have a supportive group of people that you can turn to when you get lonely
Find a new hobby that you like, it will help past the time
If you have a cell phone this is extremely helpful. Because they do earn up the privledge of calling you and you won't miss their call.
2007-02-04 12:22:25
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answered by Anonymous
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First of all, be faithfull. What I loved most is getting LOTS of letters from my sweety that had lots of perfume sprayed on them, and lipstick kisses all over the letters and envelopes. The other guys get jealous and it puts a big smile on your face and also gives you lots of HOPE and something special to work for. Current pictures are great as well, hold up a sign that says I love and miss you etc, and have a picture taken of you with that sign and mail it to him.
Military is no walk through the park, especially for couples. It takes a few years to adjust and to get stable. But it can be rewarding.
Be strong and have patience.
He will be going through more mental torture then physical, and the physical can be very scary as well. They are going to break him down mentally and build him into a man. It will make you more mature so it is a good thing.
good luck.
2007-02-04 12:06:09
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answered by scott in minnesota 3
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My boyfriend's dad is in the army reserves. I know enough about this to maybe give you a little advice. Don't act like nothing is wrong. What I mean by that, is don't act like it doesn't bother you that he is leaving. When my boyfriend's dad leaves to go overseas, his family acts like it doesn't bother them; like it is second nature...which it is to a point, but they don't even really talk about it. It is going to be hard, and you are going to have to be strong, but there are times when it's okay to break down because it's so hard. In those times lean on friends and family who can support you. If you have children, talk to them about it. Don't act like it's okay, because to young minds it's not. They will need to talk about it. Also, possibly talk to other wives of men in his unit who have been through the situation you are going into. They can offer a lot of advice and support. It's hard. I only know from second hand, and it's still hard. Good luck. I wish you the very best!
2007-02-04 11:54:30
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answered by Frogger 2
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He will have a day of leave, find out when it is and go see him. He will have a graduation, go if you can.
Letter write everyday about everything. However, don't send pictures or perfume them. I say that because at any time they can single him out they will. No need to do that, he will have enough to do.
Tell him to go to church on Sundays. It's a great way to have fellowship and to relieve stress. The power of God is very uplifting.
For you, there are support groups on post. Regardless of branch so you can go and meet people like you. It will help you understand what he is doing. You will also find out what is available for you to do and go on post. Like church work out, movies, health care.
There is no need to fear for his safety, boot camp is physical and mentally draining but not abusive.
I served and it was worth it. I would not trade those memories with anyone.
my very best to you and your husband.
2007-02-04 11:57:46
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answered by ? 4
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stay strong!!! do everything you can to pass the time, do things that you never had the time or the energy to do before.
this is a good time for you to work on yourself and change whatever you would like. stay in contact as much as possible, and above all, remember to not put your life on hold,...make sure that you still go out and see friends and join groups. have fun sending letters and making things for him.
good lluck to you, it is really hard and youll find times where you beat your head against a wall...but remember that you are not alone and there are many other women out there that are going through the same thing. im one of them and i still have 9 months to wait.
:) make sure you pray as well..even if your not entirely religious..it will help you and him
2007-02-04 12:56:10
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answered by tot tot 2
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just write lots of letters, and keep the leash tight when hes in AIT... its like one big party
ps no there is no email in basic
there is a red, white, and a blue phase
red phase is little or no contact or personal time
blue phase is a little bit of leeway, but not much more..
and white phase he could possible use the phone a few times a week.
Basic is tough, so just support him, and yes, the calls home to hear your voice are going to be golden!
2007-02-04 11:45:55
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answered by *never give up* 4
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Stand by him. My fiance left for basic and I wrote him a letter everday and waited by the phone. Remind him that no matter how tough life seems, you'll be there all the way and to picture you at the finish line. It's tough for both of you, but be true to your vows and stand by your man. Good luck, your husband is a good man for what he is doing.
2007-02-04 12:41:23
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answered by SillyKimmie 4
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You are all married before he is joining? We did the same thing. It is definately a tough route but has many perks and benefits. Keep yourself busy while he is away, find some support through the military to help you adjust, write him every day. It's tough in there for them at first.
2007-02-04 12:15:43
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answered by Anonymous
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Give him a night of romance like he will never forget... Take lots of pics of him and have someone take pics of the two of you also have pics taken of you so he can take them with him. Write him lots of letters and send emails daily to him if at all possible. Pray for him and his safety too... Also take pics of him as he heads out the door... Give him lots of hugs and kisses too and let him know how much you love him! Why dont you throw him a going away party and have friends over too. Make lots of memories before he leaves:) Have fun!
2007-02-04 11:50:39
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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Look online for support groups in your area for army wives.You could make friends with other women going through the same thing and who else better to know what your going through.Also,before he leaves (this kinda goes without saying) give him the best night of his life ;-) Hang in there and God bless him for protecting America!
2007-02-04 11:39:05
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answered by heatherfarie 2
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