i am a mother of 4 boys ages now are 18 he has graduated and moved out on his own...then i have a 16 yr old son soon to be 17 then i have a 14 yr old son soon to be 15 then a 13 yr old son soon to be 14. my ex left us back in nov 1996 i had the children in my custody ever since....when he left i told him i was keeping custody of the boys so he told me fine and then i said about going for child support he told me if i did that then he would give up all his rights to the boys i didnt know the law so i thought he could then so i said fine cause i didnt want to be the blame for him not being in his kids life so i asked him what he could afford he said 50 aweek so he paid that when he did for 10 1/2 yrs till may 2006 i sued him for child support then he turned around and sued me for full custody ....none of our sons wants to live with him . he left his 2nd wife back in 2004 she was 5 months pregnant and they also have a 2 yr old son at that time .he went to a bar and never went home ...he left her for his new gf. well they live in a 3 bedroom well the gf has a son and a daughter the son is 10 the little girl is 6 they sleep in the same room the other women is a stranger she is handicapped living in the 3rd bedroom he has no rooms for my sons they sleep on the floor and couches . i have to go by the custody agreement made from 1997 when he left ,the kids were toddlers they do not want this set up no more . i have legal services tellin me i can not change this arrangement cause he is sueing me for full custody. well we went to a modified hearing we were both ordered to pay 1050 i paid he didnt he asked the judge to give him 6 months to come up with it which will take us to april 2007 ..since then he had moved from his 2 bedroom in new phila .to a three bedroom four blocks from where we live the boys asked me to do something about the visitation they only want to see him now on a saturday from like 9 to 6pm . i am being told by alot of ppl the kids will get to talk to the judge for my ex is telling the boys he has already won and they will be living with him and they have no choice? what do you think ? is it true?
2007-02-04 11:28:11 · 4 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
the children are at the age that the judge will ask them who they want to live with. that's not a problem. your husband is trying to scare you and it looks like it's working. don't. he is bluffing. what is he going to do with 4 kids. if he wanted them then this wouldn't have gone on for 10+ yrs. call his bluff and i bet you you will win.good luck.
2007-02-04 11:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by lynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gather all evidence to prove your proper custody of the children and the irregularities made by your spouse. File a case in court for custody of the children so that proper guidelines will be laid out by the court..
2007-02-09 07:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Joan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gather all evidence to prove your proper custody of the children and the irregularities made by your spouse. File a case in court for custody of the children so that proper guidelines will be laid out by the court..
2007-02-04 11:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boys are old enough to decide where they want to live. I don't think any judge in the country would give them to their father. It is crap that he has paid so little in support- stick it to him while the boys are still at home- it is not your fault that he has other kids. Try to get help through the Dept of Family Services to get the support increased or to get a lawyer, if you can't do that, most judges try to give you a fair shake if you don't have one. Good luck.
2007-02-12 00:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Susan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋