i am a mother of 4 boys ages now are 18 he has graduated and moved out on his own...then i have a 16 yr old son soon to be 17 then i have a 14 yr old son soon to be 15 then a 13 yr old son soon to be 14. my ex left us back in nov 1996 i had the children in my custody ever since....when he left i told him i was keeping custody of the boys so he told me fine and then i said about going for child support he told me if i did that then he would give up all his rights to the boys i didnt know the law so i thought he could then so i said fine cause i didnt want to be the blame for him not being in his kids life so i asked him what he could afford he said 50 aweek so he paid that when he did for 10 1/2 yrs till may 2006 i sued him for child support then he turned around and sued me for full custody ....none of our sons wants to live with him . he left his 2nd wife back in 2004 she was 5 months pregnant and they also have a 2 yr old son at that time .he went to a bar and never went home ...he left her for his new gf. well they live in a 3 bedroom well the gf has a son and a daughter the son is 10 the little girl is 6 they sleep in the same room the other women is a stranger she is handicapped living in the 3rd bedroom he has no rooms for my sons they sleep on the floor and couches . i have to go by the custody agreement made from 1997 when he left ,the kids were toddlers they do not want this set up no more . i have legal services tellin me i can not change this arrangement cause he is sueing me for full custody. well we went to a modified hearing we were both ordered to pay 1050 i paid he didnt he asked the judge to give him 6 months to come up with it which will take us to april 2007 ..since then he had moved from his 2 bedroom in new phila .to a three bedroom four blocks from where we live the boys asked me to do something about the visitation they only want to see him now on a saturday from like 9 to 6pm . i am being told by alot of ppl the kids will get to talk to the judge for my ex is telling the boys he has already won and they will be living with him and they have no choice? what do you think ? is it true?
2007-02-04 11:27:24 · 6 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
In most cases the judge does listen to what the kids want at the ages they are now. You need to get a lawyer. He has NOT already won, he is trying to upset you and get your confidence down. Don't let him do that. I can't see a judge uprooting kids at their ages. Sounds to me like he is going to be paying alot of child support in the future for a looooong time with the 2 year old and a baby. These days the court decides how much child support he/she pays and it is not going to be cheap! So maybe he wants custody of yours so he can stop paying that part. Sounds like a dead beat dad. Stand up for what your kids deserve. I am sure they don't want mom and dad fighting, but they sure don't want to see their mom lay down and take anything from anyone!
2007-02-06 02:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Broadgonebiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning if his new grlf has any form of welfare and/or low lease housing it not suited for a infant over 5 to be sharing a rm w/a grl and u can use that against him. permit the decide be attentive to how he consistently leaves the youngsters and ladies individuals in his existence and how he does not pay for the welfare of the youngsters and or families he create.to boot i think of the youngsters are the right age to talk and the attorneys will additionally enable them to talk and that they gets to pay attention the newborn's emotions and techniques on there father.......do not concern honey have confidence and u have God on your section this criminal bondage will subside and pray approximately it the guy upstairs needs u to be humble so pray on your knees.U are blessed to have those infants on your existence so do your ultimate 2 carry them tight. U WILL WIN!!!!
2016-09-28 10:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both parents should put their bad feelings aside and file for shared custody. Unless someone is physically abusive, kids need both parents.
2007-02-04 15:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Legal Aide in your county.
2007-02-04 13:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by C C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post this under politics-law, you will get a more precise response.
2007-02-04 11:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer, he/she will be able to answer all of these questions.
2007-02-04 11:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by melashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋