He usually calls me everyday the last time I talked to him was friday morning. I called him today to see how he was doing and he just went off. He was like I don't need to call him until the baby is here and he don't have a cell phone so when he is not home he he is not there, and if I put him on child support whatever he don't care. I didn't do nothing to him so what is his problem? He is the one who is saying he is happy and want his baby. He was the one talking about having a baby for the past 2 months, and now since it has happened, he is acting crazy. He tells my friends that he love me "which I know is a lie" and that he is happy about the baby and how he gonna take care of it and that, but he tells them one thing but shows me something completely different. I am really starting to hate I'm having his baby. I want my child but I hate it is part of him. I don't know what to do.
2007-02-04 10:55:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm 20 and he is 22
2007-02-04 11:03:24 · update #1
i'm in college and I do work full time at a call center. It was not planned but I'm happy about my baby. I can take of my child by myself but I just want him to be apart of his child's life. I didn't make it by myself and I just wanted us to raise it together.
2007-02-04 11:08:26 · update #2
Don't do anything. Let him call you. Concentrate on your pregnancy and how to become the best mother that you can be. Your child deserves this. Make him pay child support, PLUS make him put the child on health insurance. Then if he does all this, he'll be a "real" father and not just some sperm donor. Think about all this. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-04 11:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like all that other stuff was a front! He has probably had the lectures and realized he will lose his "freedom" so he is panicking! Pushing you away is a defense mechanisim! Take it from me if he doesnt wanna be a part you cant make him! So dont waste your time! There are plenty of men who cant have kids who would love a ready made family! I am a single mother of a 2 year old and a three year old! My ex barely wants anything to do with his kids! It sucks but its life and you cant do anything! Stay on top of the child support go for the max forget what he says you dont need that stress on you or your baby!
Good luck!
If you wanna talk ever i can get ims or emails!
Not a stalker promise just offering a hand of support!
Oh yes and ps... Paying child support and putting the baby on insurance doesnt even come close to being a real father! It takes time and commitment! In my opinion! Dont know who that person is but you are sadly mistaken! If he wants to be a father then he needs to help and be there for his child FROM DAY ONE!
2007-02-04 11:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to say this but it sounds like he got you pregnant to make it so you can't leave him. He, on the other hand, will still be free to do whatever he wants. After all he's not pregnant, you are. Truly awful guys do this all the time. The best thing you can do would be to not call him at all. That will do one of two things. Either he will realize that baby or no baby, you don't need him and won't stay just because you're pregnant and he will start acting right or he will just disappear in which case you have saved both you and your baby from further hurt from this fool. Either way, you win! Good luck and congratulations on your baby! There is no greater love in this world!
2007-02-04 11:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient with him... when he meets his baby maybe he'll change. It's really hard for guys to accept that they're going to become Fathers... especially if they didn't plan on it.
He probably talked to a buddy of his, who got him all freaked out... now he's freaking out.
Just stay on "good terms" with him... let him know about appointments with the doctor, the ultrasound, etc. Let him know that these are events that he will only be able to experience once in his life, and that he should really consider being a part of.
Hopefully he'll get it together soon... maybe youtwo can arrange child support and visitation before the baby comes, so that there is less uncertainity until then.
2007-02-04 11:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you think this thing through? This is not a toy...this is not a pet...this is a human being that you have created. A human being that you will be responsible for for the rest of your life. How old are you? You and your boyfriend or "baby's father" as you call him, are obviously not mature enough to handle this. Do either of you even have jobs? Do you know how you plan to support this child? These are the things you should be thinking about. You can't rely on mom or the government forever. You have to set an example for this little person that you are going to have. Since you didn't think about it BEFORE you created this miracle that is inside of you, maybe you should stop thinking about this immature guy and get your life together before your baby comes.
2007-02-04 11:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
enable me provide you the real answer. a million) you may supply the toddler any final call you like if its the fathers or the mothers final call as long as they're indexed on the delivery certificates. you do no longer could placed the fathers call on there and in case you dont the toddler might have your final call. 2)Evan nonetheless he's the daddy of the toddler he has in basic terms as a lot the superb option to the youngster as you do. you may continually take him to courtroom to get the paternal the superb option terminated, baby help, joint custody or sole/finished custody. you additionally can request to have his visits supervised. If there is something which you think is going incorrect like the toddler no longer being taken care of whilst in his care and you %. up the youngster and he/she's all grimy, severe diaper rash each time, dont hesistate to call baby amenities, DHS or regardless of its referred to as the place you reside. you choose documentation of the calls made exhibiting that he's neglecting or maybe abusing the youngster. 3)As for the threats you may continually make a police record documenting the threats after which you would be able to teach the choose at your custody listening to of the threats and doubtless be waiting to get a protecting Order. Dont get a Restraning order, they do no longer seem to be worth it and each time he violates it you may bypass to courtroom to teach he violated it. protecting order is extra appropriate, you may in basic terms call the police and make a record.
2016-10-01 10:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you have options, but I don't your opinion about those certain options...anyways he sounds like he had just realized how big of commitment it is to have a baby, and that's probably why he started freaking out. You guys sound young, so maybe your baby's father just needs time to figure out some things. Talk it over with him, and let him express how he feels now and get the real truth about how he feels.
2007-02-04 11:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the jerk - you don't need him. Concentrate on taking care of yourself and staying healthy and not stressed-out. Your baby will be his/her own person - neither you nor the father, but him/herself. You will love the baby - nature and loads of birth hormones take care of that, so don't worry about that part. Get the proceedings started for child support as soon as is legally possible.
2007-02-04 11:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes a jerk but he may also be going through a stage that a lot of dads go through my husband and i were trying for a baby (we are also very young 19 and 22 when the baby was born) he started acting funny too but i stuck it out and he is happy about that.my advice is when you have the baby let him know that you dont need him but that he is welcome to be a part of its life as long as he doesnt hurt either one of you after that its on him to decide if he wants to be a man about it or not
2007-02-08 06:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of men having emotional set backs,but telling you "not to call" until baby gets here! No something is not right...either you're not telling...all of what (you said),or he's just a f^&king A*$,I'm so confused because he's telling u one thing,and your friends another!...But don't hate having a baby,Its not just HIS baby,its a "gift" from both of you.....But I hope everything works out for you...I hate that this happened to you,so early,I know you're highly upset,but please try to stay calm,for the sake of that little one inside of you!!!!!I'll keep u in my prayers......
2007-02-04 11:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋