Sure an affair may be what culminated things, but it obliterates the trust. If you cheated once, you'll do it again. Why stay with someone who wasn't grown enough to settle problems within the marriage? How many of the psychologists who materialized the garbarge go by it? I would love to know.
2007-02-04 10:41:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah l guess l would like to know myself but l have lived through an affair( my husband cheated on me) and l don't believe he will do it again. Yes l agree the trust issue is really tough but l am working on it, we both are. No-one ever said life was meant to be easy but we all live and learn, we are all human after all and none of us are perfect. Hope this helped.
2007-02-04 11:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.To many people call an affair an accident or an out burst of emotional needs.I think these people are full of $hit.An affair is not an accident.It happens because one of the partners in a relationship are to weak or lazy to bring up their needs to the other.A psychologist once told me while in marriage counseling that my ex had the affair by mistake.I politely told him that I was going to forget paying him for his services by mistake also.
2007-02-04 19:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery does not have to end a marriage - if both parties want to save it. There is a great deal of pain masquerading as anger, old problems which led to the adultery to unearth. Few couples are able to accomplish this w/o professional help. The question is IF both parties want it. Straying is symptomatic of another problem which can be corrected w/ mutual love and patience.
2007-02-04 19:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hostility of your questio suggests you already have the answer to your question and aren't interested in hearing anything different.
However, in case I'm mistaken, it is by no means impossible to trust someone after an affair. When I was young and promiscuous I had an affair while living with J. She found us together, and I will never forget the look of pain and horror on her face. I never again cheated on her, and we had a successful marriage. Her pain broke through to me, and forced me to confront myself.
Besides, it's not up to you to make decisions for your friends, or to judge them harshly. "People make their bed and then they lie in it."
2007-02-04 18:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An affair is not a symptom it is a choice.. Every day we make choices to do right or wrong things... To me there is no reason or excuse to ever cheat or have an affair. Very good question by the way... Thanks for bringing this one up it makes me think:) I love these kind of questions.
2007-02-04 18:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
affairs can be complex and depending on the circumstances some marriages survive a affair. Most don't however, I for one have been through it and I just couldn't live with a man I couldn't trust.
2007-02-04 18:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can reveal numerous character flaws.
It's up to each couple to decide on each circumstance what to do when one cheats.
Try applying your "100% every time" rule to your own bad habits and imperfections - if you want it that way, then she should have dumped your sorry a s s a *long* time ago. Oh that's different - that's wonderful you. Please - enough with the sanctimonious oh i am so much better than the rest of you b u l l s h i t.
2007-02-04 18:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a point, i don't buy it
2007-02-04 18:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by prettylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋