2007-02-04 10:38:29 · 16 answers · asked by king_of_agony06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to grow up and quit being a selfish baby, which is what I'm assuming she is if she's a bad wife. I used to be a bad wife, she needs to learn to show you some respect, appreciation, admiration, support, affection, and kindness. You deserve to be treated like the man you are.
I agree with CFoster, read those books by Dr. Laura, also give her them to read. They are a bit harsh, but sometimes the truth hurts! She needs an attitude adjustment. I'm glad you have pretty kids, but you need to do something about this now! They may be pretty on the outside, but if this keeps up, your kids will only have outer beauty. She needs to shape up for the sake of your sanity and your kids. Your kids are watching their mom treat a husband like crap and they are going to think that that is acceptable, it's not!
You may want to drag her to marriage counseling if she refuses to read those books or refuses to change her attitude.
I hope everything works out for you. I'm sorry you have been treated so poorly, you deserve better!
2007-02-04 11:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why the wife is bad. If it affects the kids badly. You need to leave her, and try and get custody of the kids. If she just doesn't do housework, then hire a cleaner. If she doesn't put out, make yourself unresistable to her.
If she cheats on you, then once again, find a way you can leave her, but still see the kids.
Always put the kids first.
2007-02-04 18:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean by her being bad. Bad with what?
I would then consider on getting this book for her called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husband" and for the both of you to read, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". Get that book for her for Valentines Day or sooner! You can get it on line at Barnes and Noble or Borders Bookstore.
If you want to save your marriage, get these books! Don't make your pretty kids go through such drama and don't let them suffer anymore. Think about what they are going through.
2007-02-04 18:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying your wife is "bad" is a pretty broad statement. Take a look at the relationship. Maybe your wife isn't bad, but your relationship is failing. Try putting more effort into the relationship and see if that helps.
2007-02-04 18:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray a lot! Get counseling.Decide if you even want this marriage to work at all. If there is any hope then, try to find a way to make it work. If not, then think about how to move on into the future, to make a better life for yourself, your children, and your soon to be ex wife. Good luck. Life is too short to be miserable!
2007-02-04 18:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him you don't want that trouble let alone you don 't want to be responsible for stealing the kids father and breaking up a marriage and advise him to reconsider what he's doing and why tell him to try to talk things out with his wife you'll fell better and so will he
2007-02-04 18:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Nathan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wondering how old are the children, you know when the parents separate only the children suffer. Could you stay for the children. Let the wife know maybe she might straighten up. Maybe there is so much hurt there that it shows in hatred
2007-02-04 18:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love conquers all; A woman will respond to what she is given. If a man gives her love she will feel loved and respond to that. If he treats her like a precious gift she will respond to that. But if he sees her as a problem and begins to treat her as such, guess what he's got. He can't turn her on an off like a faucet and expect good results, it takes time. There was an incident where a man went home after 10 hours of work and a full load in college. He was ready to drop from exhaustion when he finally got home. But when he walked in the door he was met by an upset woman shaking her fist and cursing at him. As he said to himself," I can't deal with this right now and turned to leave, he heard," Turn around and hug her." After arguing with GOD for a few minutes he reluctantly turned around and hugged her. After he caught her when she passed out from shock she looked up and said,"Master!" and he almost passed out from shock. Then she said, " I need to call you master because Sarah called Abraham LORD in the bible." the man said, "I don't deserve this but for your sake I will accept It." Then he heard GOD say, "See, you do what I tell you and I"LL take care of the rest." It might sound like just a story, but I know it's true because that man was Me. What example are the children learning from?
2007-02-04 19:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you haven't tried marriage counseling, go. If the kids are still pretty young she could be suffering from post partum. If she thinks your the devil, you may want to see if she has quit taking her hormone medicine.
2007-02-04 18:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by lego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really answer that unless you elaborate on what exactly you mean by "bad wife." I may or may not agree with the assessment.
2007-02-04 18:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋