i know this sounds stupid but can you please answer?

Question

this is like a two part question.heres the first. i like this guy in my youth group, but hes an upperclassman and doesn't really acknowledge me. he is soo cute though! i really want to at least become friends with him, but since im kindof shy [i dont go to their church, just youth group] and they think just b/c i get a ride from my friend that shes the only friend i have [she always follows me around at youth group when im TRYING to interact with the others, gets annoying, but yeah so then he wouldn't talk to me b/c of all those reasons [shy, freshman, friend following me].how can i talk to him casually and become friends with him?
that gets me to my next one. how do i become friends with at least some of the upperclassmen and not just freshmen, we freshmen are already friends. but how do i become friends with them? b/c like i said earlier i am a little shy and my friend follows me around and i dont go to their church[pretty much the same reasons]so how do i make friends w/them n him?

yes i will be attending sunday school.=]
but i want ot know like how do i start a conversation [that will last more than 1 minute] with him, or anyone there? i really want to make more friends there.

the reason i keep saying upperclassmen is b/c there are only 9th graders [me, and the rest i am friends with ] and then 11th/12th graders, and i really want to be friends with them. not to be accepted but just so i have more ppl to talk to in youth group.
my friend that follows me around does get annoying like i said. i'll sit down at a chair purposely when shes on the other side of the room [so others can sit next to me and i can talk to them] butt hen she comes over and sits there. then i'll be hanging with another 9th grader and then we sit down and then later he/she goes to get up and so do i and then she follows me/us, she pretty much is like a thrid wheel for everything i do.so then ppl dont talk to me, idk how to tell her to stop b/c weve been friends since 2nd grade.

pretty much what i was trying to say up there was , what do i talk about to them? i know their my age group but idk what to say to them?! i would really like to have some more friends in youth group so i have ppl to talk to/hang with besides the one that follows me around.

please help me. i dont want to be friends with them to be 'accepted' just having only freshmen friends does get annoying sometimes i want to talkto older ppl

Answer 1

Why don't you try going to the church and becoming more involved believe me that will prove that you are not just there to get dates and well then some of them will start talking to you.

Answer 2

Break the ice with a smooth pickup line that will be sure to get anyone laughing. Such as "Do you work for UPS because i couldve swore u were checking out my package". Or if that is too straight forward go with your own approach. My point is that to become friends with someone you have to talk to them. Look on the bright side you already have one thing in common, your both involved in a church program.

Answer 3

Ok lets talk about the first question...just because he is an upperclassmen and your friend follows u around doesn't mean he wont like u. He has to get to know u first. It sounds like you are embarrassed by your friend which doesnt sound too good and he could notice that and not like that. So just be friendly to the other upperclassmen and him and your friend. And the key to getting ovet shyness is just confidence. Your shy because u are unsure of how the older kids are going to recieve u just talk to them like u know u are good enough to hang around them and they will feel it too.

Answer 4

at every chance you get that their is a possibility that he will be there go there if you have his email emailk him not just forwards
smile when he is there
laugh at his jokes
laugh a lot but not to much
if you annoy in a not funny way or make him mad him ask him why or just stop talking to him for a while
say hi whenevery you see him
act or be interessed in what he says or and does
don't ask him out ever! if he has a girl friend and just wait for him to ask you
he mighty be shy to and could like you but don't think so
go to the church its more of a chance to be with him
if he volenteers for some thing why not do it
act more machure and don't be shy he might like u more if your not

sory i wrote so much i would write more but i got to go
BYE!

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you're trying too hard.

Why do you participate in their youth group if you don't attend their church? Are you there because of a true interest in the group and its goals or are you there to make friends with older students and look for hunky guys?

You need to get your thinking straight and back off the older teens. If they want to be friendly, they will make the first move.

Answer 6

sure if he like's you then he won't care.. but you need to tell your friend to back off for a while.. cause you need your space, one of these days she will understand.. just tell her how it is.. if he doesn't like you then he won't even try to get to know you.. why do you want to waste your time on him, when theirs somebody else out their probably waiten for you.. who knows he might be just going to one gurl to the nexts so your not really missing anything.. but if you really like the guy will get over your shy, get up their an talk to him.. maybe you should even pratica what your going to say to him before you go talk to him.. wish you the best..

Answer 7

Do things that will make him notice you.. give out your talents!... im sure you have talents! shine gurl! casually smile at him like he's nothing. Don't make urself inferior!... treat him normally. best of luck!
tc n have fun!

Answer 8

go to church with them and watch they will start working for them...

Answer 9

this is how you make friends all you do is say your name is la la la not trin to be mean about your name but anyways and then he or she is going to say there name then you say whant to be good friends he or she says yes or no and thats how you do it ok