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My "best" friend that is. We've been best friends for 20 years, and talk once a day. However, lately she's been ditching me for this low life guy she lives with who treats her like crap. Once she promised to babysit for my hubby and I, and we made reservations and everything. Come time for her to babysit, she was no where to be found. Wouldnt answer my calls or return my messages. She called the next day with some big excuse that involved her man. Then she and I had plans last Friday, and same thing happened. Come evening time she was no where to be found, and wouldnt return my calls. She calls Sunday with an excuse that involved her man. Now, this guy comes and goes as he pleases, lives somewhere else (she doesnt even know where) for part of the week, and doesnt work. Dont get me wrong...if she wants to hang with him over me...fine. But all I'm asking for is the deceny of a phone call to cancel! Nothing more! Is it time for me to ditch her?

2007-02-04 10:18:18 · 6 answers · asked by SassyC 2 in Family & Relationships Friends

6 answers

How about not making plans with her anymore to test and see if she is willing to lose a friendship over a guy that is not even worth it. U know love is blind and she is seeing stars right now but eventually it will all come to light how much of a loser her guy is and when it does come to a head she is going to need her best friend there to support her. You're just feeling a little bit neglected right now and if u guys have been friends that long then she needs to hear how u feel. But do keep in mind that u have your hubby and she is just looking for the same kind of love that u have....just let her know that she cant be hanging u out to dry in the process.

2007-02-04 10:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by JAY 3 · 0 0

You have been friends for a long time, and it is easy for her to take your friendship for granted because of it's longevity, and because you don't seem to care how she treats you.

I wouldn't ditch her, because there could be a time coming up soon where she may need you, and you may be her only lifeline. There is a greater chance of this happening based on her current relationship.

You should have a talk with her, and tell her how you feel.

Let her make the decision on where the relationship goes from there.

2007-02-04 18:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I would definitely back off from her.. I would tell her that I am not going to be treated like that and when she decides to have a change of heart then we will talk. If she seems to be having a change of heart then I would only trust her (being cautious) with things I know I can trust her with..which leaves me to the conclusion that she would not be a close friend anymore unless she proved me otherwise.

2007-02-04 18:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

maybe shes going through a hard part in life..... she might only be with this man cause she needs some sort of "guidance" through life.... she might not even realize what hes doin to her.... if shes been your friend for so long... hold on and try to help but dont ditch your relationship because of some guy

2007-02-04 18:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

she is taking your friendship for granted.. but talk to her and tell her how you feel.. she either chooses you or him...

2007-02-04 18:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Promise 6 · 0 0

Sounds as if she has already DITCHED you.....

2007-02-04 18:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by PigPen 3 · 0 0

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