Happily married 16 yrs to a wonderful man and this happened a yr ago and everything is back to normal just wanted to see what other people think about this..Last yr between january 11 and march 11 no sex(he didnt intiate at all)but in middle of february 1 night when he thought i was sleeping(HE WAS ON COUCH WATCHING TV AND I WAS IN BED BOTH IN SAME ROOM)well anyways i saw him masturbating next day i told him what i said and at first he denied then admitted and i said "i was thinking of u"(STILL FIND THAT HARD TO BELIEVE)I ask him to be honest with me and he said many many times he was being honest..U see january 11 we had sex and i got tired of intiating most of the time so i thought i would wait for him but a month went by nothing and then i saw him masturbating and another month went by. He is a good man,a great husband and would never cheat on me i know him well enough to know this. He said at the time he couldnt give me a reason for no sex for 2 months.
2007-02-04 09:56:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does anybody think i was partly to blame for those 2 months my 1 guy friend i chat with said i was maybe he is right
2007-02-04 09:57:09 · update #1
Why don't you be forward and come onto him or next time you see him masturbating go to him ask him if you can help him out.
2007-02-04 12:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men need to know they are attractive to women. I know some think that if we women make the first move, we think they are hot,we find them attractive, and it makes them feel manly,good and sexy. And when a man feels this way they also try to protect themselves from rejection, which makes these feelings worse.You need to talk to him, tell him you feel you have to always be the one to make a move, and you would just like him to also be the first sometimes. And ask him why he don't? Talking about both of your feelings is very important right now.
2007-02-07 12:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Broadgonebiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I would not have waited as long as you did, and I would've brought it up to him as we were making out or making love by saying...... as much as I love coming on to you, it would be very nice and make me horney as hell if you were to come on to me every now and then. Our relationship is a two-way street and everything is supposed to be 50/50, it's not about you and it's not about me..... it's about us. I just love it when you kiss me all over and touch me in those "trigger places" that you know oh so well. Next time it's your turn to shake the spices and turn up the heat baby.
After a speech like that in a sexy voice, while you're getting it on, you will have him coming on to you all the time.
Good Luck and Have Fun
2007-02-04 21:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋