Or disappointed with, etc... either right after marriage, like hardships you didnt foresee, or after a long time together...
what are some things that people DONT SAY....
I'm not getting married; the question just popped into my mind.... romantic ideal can totally cover over the true negative aspects of marriage, I beleive, and I am curious what some of those negatives are ;)
2007-02-04 09:50:29 · 15 answers · asked by Yentl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For example, how you lose or miss friends....
2007-02-04 09:51:28 · update #1
i wish we would have discussed our parenting styles.....because we are totally on different pages when it comes to that. This is the only area that i find we have problems in, and seems to cause some strain on our relationship.
2007-02-04 09:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by shaggy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is great. People have always harped on how hard it is and how much work it is, but I don't see it that way. We knew each other for a 3 years before marriage, but I knew after the first day we were going to be together forever.
And the sex is way better now!
2007-02-04 10:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody ever told me the butterflies die after a while..it left me kinda jolted and thinking I had fallen out of love with my husband. We actually ended up separating for a while and eventually got back together and decided we wanted to make things work. Before long I realized that while the butterflies may be gone. I had grown such a deep love for him that went way beyond feeling all giddy whenever I saw him. I just wish someone had told me about that sooner..might have saved us alot of drama.
2007-02-04 10:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone would have told me that if you do not make most of the money you will not be treated as an equal in decision making. Like what house to buy or things you may want but can't buy with out his help, eventhough you are supposed to share in a marraige that is not always the case.
2007-02-04 11:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by LETICIA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 10:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't realize how many sacrifices i would have to make and how life changing it is. also what i dont like is when people get comfortable and take each other for granted. communication is the most important thing, next is sex to keep the relationship going
2007-02-04 10:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by prettylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about children and how to raise them.It is important and forgotten at times. And when you get older what you will do together. Make plans now if you can.Congrats to you both!
2007-02-04 10:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that you really don't know a person until you live with them. Then you find out all kinds of things. Sometimes just when you think they won't do something, they sure will.
2007-02-04 09:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people tend to let themselves go after they get married. The one disappointment I have about mine is that she let herself go (got fat-really fat) after 7 years of an otherwise wonderful marriage. Worse, she doesn't think it should matter.
It's affected our sex life. It is just not satisfying or fulfilling anymore because I don't enjoy having sex with her.
2007-02-04 10:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
our parenting styles are very different! with both wanted kids but we never talked about it in depth. Also I didn't think i'd get stuck with the kids at the house all the time.
2007-02-04 10:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by Armywife3J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋