where does it hurt?
2007-02-04 09:49:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It can hurt girls and women to have sex - a lot of people will say that sex the first time will hurt, but for the most part it is myth.
It is amazing the number of girls and women who will perpetuate this myth, but in all fairness it is no surprise as so many people are ignorant about sex and the female body, and there are still a lot of taboos surrounding female sexuality and the female body that probably started off the ideas on anything to do with the genitals hurting – menstruation, child-birth, sex, none of these things need to be painful but people constantly tell girls and women that they are supposed to be painful.
People believe it will or should hurt and so they will think nothing of it if it does and do nothing to prevent it, some will even carry on having sex just to let their partners enjoy sex. Girls and women have the ability to stop sex if it hurts, try again later, demand other forms of sex prior to penetration and have every right to enjoyable sex – pain is your bodies way of telling you that something is wrong, sex should be pleasurable.
Sex the first time can hurt normally due to a few common reasons;
-Hymen breaking – this can be painful, but it is just as likely to be pleasurable or have no feeling at all, a lot of girls hymens are broken before penetrative sex so this is not an issue for them.
-Not being emotionally ready – a lot of girls and women convince themselves they are ready for sex when really they are not, they either feel pressured by friends or their partners, if not ready they will not enjoy sex and it will make sex difficult. If a girl believes sex will be painful it will be painful because they will tense up making it hard for the vagina to stretch as it should.
-Not being physically ready – only 30% of women orgasm from penetrative penis to vaginal sex, women's bodies simply are not made to be stimulated by penetration alone so need sex before penetration (i.e. foreplay) I order to make sure the vagina is lubricated enough, elongated enough, flexible enough and to make sure the clitoris is stimulated enough.
If you are educated, wait till the right time and have sex with someone you love and trust who can turn you on and accepts that you need pleasure too then there is no reason for pain past physical or psychological problems. Sex is not like on TV, women don't instantly scream with pleasure from the slightest touch of a man, it is often awkward and messy particularly the first time – but again, when you are ready it will all work out fine as you'll be having sex because you want to share that with your partner, so the actual act of sex isn't so much the issue it's the emotions that would count.
One of the best articles on this ever written was by Scarleteen, the site is aimed at teen girls mostly however I know it helps a lot of women too, this article goes through in a simple and non-patronising way why sex could hurt and what to do about it, I seriously recommend you read through it - http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/owtowow.html - From Ow! To Wow!
Some more links you should check out;
http://www.sexwithoutpain.com
http://www.the-clitoris.com
http://www.scarleteen.com
http://www.myvag.net
http://www.vaginaverite.com
http://www.sexinfo101.com
http://www.infosex.com
http://www.sxetc.org
2007-02-04 09:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kasha 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, it does hurt. Pretty much everything inside and out hurts during the whole experience. It can feel good, but still hurt a lot (my first time, my guy was pretty small... and it hurt like hell). After it was all done and overwith I had to put on a small pad because of bleeding. The next day was sore too...
2007-02-04 09:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by kaledrina 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's supposed to hurt a lot.
However, if you "do stuff" before sexual intercourse, it makes it a lot less painful, take it from me.
My boyfriend and I fooled around a lot, and it didn't hurt me at ALL when i lost my virginity.
Good luck.
2007-02-04 11:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by o0o0o0o0o0o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me I was very physically active (karate, ju jitsu) before sex and your hymen can tear without you realising. I think mine may have because I did not have any pain, just a bit of discomfort during my first time. If you make sure that you are well lubricated you should be fine- to do this just do a bit of foreplay first- ask him to give you oral sex, it will get you in the mood and make you relaxed and lubricated, ready for penetration.
Good luck and try to have a bit of fun
2007-02-04 11:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by renee.emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can hurt many different ways. It hurts physically the first few times because your vagina isn't used to having anything inside it, and it can hurt emotionally if you're not ready or are being raped. Or it can be beautiful and only hurt physically.
2007-02-04 09:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by ickmick 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is, it hurts inside b.c everything is tight and never been opened or explored before, i did not like sex for at least the 1st year i started having it but everybody is different, anyway is stops hurting after a while.
2007-02-04 09:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It shouldn't hurt if the male is considerate takes and takes his time. If he is just some kid it may be a bit uncomfortable with his clumsy fumblings. If a woman is aroused there should be no discomfort.
2007-02-04 09:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Elle M 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
it does hurt... it hurts alot.. it helps when the guy goes really slow because i was lucky that he was really gentile and did it slowly.. when i told him to... but it hurt so much.. and i was bleeding a lot!! i cried.... its not true when people tell you oh i couldnt walk, i didnt know how to walk and what not.. but it does it... it burns a bit after your done, also... and it will hurt the first couple times after that.... if your going to do anything, please be careful.. make sure its with someone you care for.. and use protection... remember that it hurts because your tight and your not use to having something inside of you... so it will be plainful until it gets use to it and it stretches out a bit.... please think about it beore you do anything..
2007-02-04 10:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It can be painful.......
Especially if you are at the mercy of some inexperienced nincompoop! The pain comes from the breaking of the hymen.
Read the link below for a better understanding of What makes a virgin.!
http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/hymen.html
.........REMEMBER
There is no shame in being a virgin....
Infact if you are single and a virgin
Be proud to be one of the few!
2007-02-04 10:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by LucySD 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It never hurt me when I lost my virginity. Only when I found out I was not her only conquest at the same time period.
2007-02-04 09:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋