I STILL HAVE A LITTLE GIRL INSIDE OF ME AND HE'S WAY OLDER. USE TO SMOKE CRACK AND I'M CLEAN NOW AND KEEP HAVING THOUGHTS IN MY MIND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. BUT I KNOW THE CONSEQUENCES. HE'S DONE EVERYTHING I'VE EVER ASKED HIM TO DO.
2007-02-04 09:44:07 · 15 answers · asked by s p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really think that the age difference may be a little to large. If you are still thinking of krak go to a meeting.
2007-02-04 09:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having doubts with this man. He is more like a 'father figure' to you than anything else. Could it be possible that maybe you are with him because either you are not close to your father, or maybe your father left you, that you need someone like this man to portray your father? Something to think about kiddo.
Yes, you are still young and he is too old for you. I really think that you are way too immature for him and he is too 'fatherly' for you. I would recommend you finding someone your own age.
Down the road, you can expect some problems in your marriage if you happen to take that route. Why? Because like you said, you still have that little girl inside of you. You are not mature yet, just got off drugs. You have a whole life ahead of you kiddo, do what is right for you, not what he wants. He also should find someone his own age too.
Anyway, best wishes if you go forward with marriage. But do think this out seriously before making those vows to him.
2007-02-04 10:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is engaged and you are only 21 and he is 49, you smoked crack but don't now? I feel you need to not get attatched to this man and let the relatioship take whatever course it will take. If he marries you should move on. There are plenty of other older men out there that would love to date a 21 year old, most of them .
2007-02-04 11:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by LETICIA P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a father, you need a man closer to your age if you are looking for someone to marry. You are still very young to be thinking about such a serious move. Glad to hear that you are clean now. Are those thoughts in your mind about the crack? You still need more help in fighting your addiction. Best of luck.
2007-02-04 10:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age doesnt really matter if your both truly in love with each other. You will undoubtedly run into problems as he gets older and you get tired of having a "real" old man. Right now he will appear as dad in society but time will take its toll on him and his body will naturally slow down while youre approaching the prime of your life. You will also be the brunt of many jokes from people thru this, so get ready to grow up really quick. You may also find it really hard to converse with his friends and youll probably feel like being left out from his circle of friends. If you can get thru this then youll have it made. Good luck
2007-02-04 09:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smoking crack interrupted your maturity process. Give yourself time to mature now that you are off crack. Then you can consider marriage. But, not with some guy more than twice your age. It just will not work. Shoot for someone within 5-6 years of your age when you are ready.
2007-02-04 09:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An almost 50 year old man going out with a 21 year old...
Sounds like he's on crack.
2007-02-04 09:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 10:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by newborn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that if you marry this man, you will find problems down the road. He WILL develop serious health problems just when you want to start enjoying life. Are you ready to be his nursemaid or caretaker? You will be changing his diapers as well as your children's, if you have any. I know someone who is in this very situation.
Also, men his age are very set in their ways and can be very difficult to get along with. So, I would seriously seriously think about what you are doing.
2007-02-04 10:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you were looking for a Sugar Daddy. If you're having doubts then I would postpone the wedding. You'd better stay with him or do the right thing for your little girl once she's born.
2007-02-04 10:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋