alrighty. so i think im over the girl i have liked for the longest time ever. shouldn't i be happy? i mean im finally over her...it should be easy right?? well...i dunno why...but its so hard for me. i feel like crying...i dunno why. i think i still like her...but im not sure. everytime i feel as if im going to let go of her it gets me sad as hell...and i dunno why. why am i feeling this way? i saw her yesterday and wow she looked amazing.... and then i just realized...i have no chance anyway....so why keep caring. also like i dunno. i have slowly been loosing the feelings that i have had for her. im afraid to let go though and i dunno why. this sucks. whats going on with me?! why am i so sad about this?
2007-02-04 09:34:33 · 21 answers · asked by hottie555 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're growing up. Give it time.
2007-02-04 09:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you think your heart is like a light switch??? Just because it doesn't work out for you, doesn't mean your feelings disappeared. You need more time and more distance to get over her. Stay busy. Meet other people. Join a club or activity. You are a sensitive person who has a heart ache. Don't think you are different from the rest of us. We all have had heart breaks before. And will have them again. Sometimes the pain will fade in months, sometimes it lasts a lot longer. It's just part of being a human being. Don't concern yourself with the whys and hows and such. Accept that this is all part of life. Be good to yourself. Go have some fun. Hugs!
2007-02-10 18:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a ***** ain't it. And as you well know you're not over her, but she's moved on, and that's it. You're hurtin' and that's a hurt that 's going to last a long time. There's a hole in your heart and in your guts that you could drive a semi through, and there's nothing in this world to fill it except her, and that's not going to happen.
There's only one way you are going to heal yourself, and you still have the means and methods to do that. You are wallowing in dispair and hurt over losing her. Well lets look at the other end for a moment. She was a prize wasn't she? Incredibly beautiful. A body like no other. A smile that lit up a room. She had a raw sexuality that drew men of all ages to her. And yet it was you, and you alone that captured her eye and her heart. It was you who kissed those honey lips, you who carresed those perfect breasts,you who made love to that perfect body, you who she loved with all her heart and soul, it was you who she gave herself to completely.
Well you still have all those "tools", all those talents, traits, charisma, charm, whiles, good looks, sensitivity, sexuality, sense of humor, intellect, empathy, energy, and aura about you. You still have that special spark in your eyes, and that vibrantcy in your voice, and the charge in the air about your body and that positive set to your posture - when your not moping about "her".
So I challenge you. Yeah she was a beauty, and incredible in the sack, - well so are hundreds of thousands of other women out there - and they're smart, and sweet, and loving, and faithful, and wondering where the hell all the good men like you are at. So dry your eyes, take a shower, put away her picture, and rejoin the living. You still know how to dance, and laugh, and make a woman feel special and beautiful, and wanted. And a lot of women out there need a man to do that for them. So up & at 'em. You'll start feeling better, as soon as you start making others feel better - just you wait and see.
Who knows, - you may even become so popular again, that she may figure out how much she gave up, and what a dope she was, and she may come begging back after you, and guess what, by that time, you may really be over her. I know I've been there. Good Luck.
I'm pulling for you.
2007-02-10 23:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and gone through the same thing as I'm sure many of us have. I not telling u that to forget the feelings u have / had for this person but to realize that you have the strength and ability to move on and accept things for what they are. (How long were you together with this person or were you just dating). Things happen for a reason some of which we can't ever explain. I think it's when you go out expecting to meet that special or for eg. going to wash clothes,grocery shopping,etc,etc. Don't expect anything this way you dont get down or have any negative feelings or any reason to question your attractiveness,desireablity,looks,etc. Just let the chips fall wher they may and know that there's a great many doors still left to be opened and your future friend,lover,partner,etc.,may be behind one of those doors or might even follow you through.
2007-02-04 18:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by BayArea111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes thru similar feelings for someone that they lose, eventually. I'm going thru something similar, but nowhere near as strong as yours. I have the same confusing feelings, even though I Never had a chance. I feel like I'm obsessing. It's like I'm afraid to move on, and perhaps that could be one of your issues. Maybe you're afraid to let go of what you feel, because then you would feel alone. Kind of like that old saying, "It's better to have love and lost, than to have never loved at all."
Some will say that's a bunch of crap, and sometimes I agree. But it's still tough. I think you just need to give yourself time. Don't be in a rush to do anything. It sounds like you're thinking fairly logically, so eventually you'll feel alright. Just give it time.
2007-02-04 17:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just feel emotionally empty and because you don't have someone to love in your life right now, your thoughts go down memory lane again and again because of the loneliness you feel inside. Or you might unknowingly be holding onto some guilt about some incident that transpired between you and your ex-gf, which isn't unusual, coz it has happened to me before when I had a relationship with a man twice my age.
2007-02-11 05:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned whether or not you've ever said anything to this girl about the way you feel. What you're feeling now may not be "getting over", it may just be "giving up". I would suggest you tell her, and if you already have, talk to her about it. Unless you do, you're just going to be sad as hell everytime you see her.
2007-02-04 17:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy the song The Crying Game. It May Help.
2007-02-11 19:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the SAME thing..look at my other questions..Its not that I NEED a gf, I just wanna feel loved by sum1, but its like evry1 hates homosexuals now, so i cant get a girl.
2007-02-04 17:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think your nearly there its just your so used to feeling all goey when you see her it is like a wrench when you see her again and you think you should feel like that. Try i have a friend who is getting married soona nd she is still obsessed with her ex who she has not gone out with for nearly ten years. You just have to learn that its the past.
2007-02-04 17:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely not over her. You have to keep yourself busy with other things. Just give it time and things will get better. Work on you...................... Mind, body and soul. You'll feel better about you and everything else will fall into place. Good Luck
2007-02-04 17:40:21 · answer #11 · answered by Suzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋