When you are living with someone for five years and he still does not stay with a steady job?

Question

But he promises it will get better ...Should I stand by him?....Or move on?....I need your answers?....TY

Answer 1

Stand by him. You already wasted 5 years of your life, why not waste at least 5 more.

Answer 2

Its been five years what are you waiting on? Things havent gotten better so move on. Get your own place or give him time to move out. Legally he has to be given notice. Once he has steady and stable employment of one year then try working on living together again and possibly get married. There is no use in staying in a relationship when you are the only one working. I know its hard and he should see this and step up and become a provider not a dependent.

Answer 3

If he does not have a steady job after 5 years of promising it will get better, I doubt that he ever will have a steady job. He sounds unmotivated. If he wanted to make something of his relationship with you he would get and hold a job like most folks do. Don't let him drag you down. Don't invest more time in him. Move on.

Answer 4

Why is he not staying with a steady job? Is he getting fired. I think you may want to go into a little more detail before you trust the answers that you'll get here. I mean is he trying or is he being lazy? Does he sit around playing video games all day or is he out honestly trying to find a job and make his, and your, life better? Is he in school? Did he go to school?

Answer 5

MOVE ON I was in a similar situation and I left him and found a man with an awsome career and money to spend. I did not even have to work. Now we are married and sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I had stayed with the loser who could not keep a job. I would be in the same spot struggling with a loser.

Answer 6

I say move on. Chances are he's telling you that things will get better because he knows that's what you want to hear. If he hasn't had a stable job in five years, he isn't interested in having one. Sorry

Answer 7

This is totally up to you hon.... What do you think or how do you feel? If it were me i would move on if he would not get a better job and stick with it and break his promises to me. Sounds like he is irresponsible and is not serious about doing better. I think you will be better off without him in this case.

Answer 8

After five years nothing has changed? Do you have a clue? He will promise you what you want to hear and change nothing. Sounds like you have a genuine loser on your hands. I doubt he'll change, why would he?. Move on and find a guy that will love respect and support you. You deserve it. He will NOT change.

Answer 9

Employment issues are difficult and not entirely within our realm of control. There are many factors which need to be taken into consideration, like economics, the condition of the job market, field of training, availability in that field and so on. Is the basis of your relationship founded on dollars and cents or is there something more to it?

Answer 10

Isn't 5 years enough to proof to you that he is not going to change one bit? Promises, promises but none are being kept. He's a bum. You should move on.

Answer 11

You've wasted so much of your life already waiting for him, he doesn't seem in any hurry to change. Can you stand to waste more of your life on him? You already know the answer you just need a push in the right direction. Here..let me do it for you...PUUUSHHHH! Now go make a REAL life for yourself.