I am seeking a response from a trained grief therapist. My family found out about the murders of our daughter and two grandchildren when an attorney blurted it out in court. The murderer (the attorney's client) was on trial for sexual abuse. We, the family, were waiting for the trial to resume when the murderer's attorney blurted out the deaths to us in open court. The attorney didn't tell the prosecutor or judge, just us, and then kept on walking, refusing to answer our questions. The murderer killed his wife and children (our daughter and grandchildren) and then turned the gun on himself. It was as if we were devastated twice. We have yet to receive an apology from the attorney. I believe the callous way in which the news was delivered is hampering our healing. Am I right? It's been 8 months now....
2007-02-04 09:25:55 · 5 answers · asked by ebennett54 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Try rewriting this question in the Psychology section, where you might have better luck finding someone qualified to discuss this horrible ordeal.
Such a callous and cold man....but he's an attorney.
Kind of confused about the trial you were at when you were told of the murders. Were you at the trial of your son-in-law for the sexual abuse? If so, how could be have been there if he turned the gun on himself when he murdered your daughter and kids previously?
Either way, bad attorney.....bad way to deliver the news.
This guy should be called on the carpet and made public.
That won't bring your family back, but it could ruin his practice.
....and possibly save another family from receiving news of this magnatude in the same fashion.
So sorry for your loss.....but, in my experience, healing takes time and goes through stages....denial.....anger....then acceptance. Family Grief Counselors are located in your phone book. 8 months is a long time to feel the way you've been feeling, so take action.... you have been sitting in this pain for too long.
It's time to move on. That's what your daughter would have wanted, right?
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2007-02-04 09:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks such as you're waiting for an apology so which you will circulate on for the time of the grieving technique. specific it replace into incorrect wherein the main factors of your loved ones have been given yet do not watch for an apology. it extremely is possibly which you will not get one. Take at some point at a time. no you may could bypass by what you're and that i'm essentially sorry for what befell to you. yet do you think of your daughter might choose you to be residing this form? no you may nicely be responsive to what you're dealing with as each case like it is different. Grieve for them yet additionally undergo in ideas the stable circumstances and stay for them instead of with out them. they are with you on your coronary heart and soul.
2016-12-13 08:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by scheiber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you not know that your daughter and grandchildren were killed before you went to the trial? That does not make sense at all. You knew he was on trial for sexual abuse, but you didn't wonder where your daughter and grandchildren have been?
2007-02-04 11:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say I'm very sorry for your loss.
I'm not sure I understand how you weren't notified of the deaths before the trial. How long after the deaths was this? I'm only asking because maybe the attorney didn't realize you didn't know.
2007-02-04 09:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't know they were dead until then?
2007-02-04 09:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by holeeycow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋