In your opinion, can you have a satisfying sexual relationship with your spouse if you no longer find him/her physically attractive because your partner has let himself/herself go?
I'm curious because I hear it repeated over and over on here that physical attraction shouldn't matter in a marriage as long as you love each other. I'm curious to know just what percentage of men and what percentage of women share that view.
Personally, I think that if you truly love each other, it would be important to you to at least try to be physically attractive and pleasing to your partner. That would in turn help to foster a better, more satisfying sex life.
2007-02-04 09:23:14 · 12 answers · asked by Leroy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
n0s, are you suggesting that you don't consider looks in a potential spouse? Or that you don't use yours to attract one?
2007-02-05 00:35:01 · update #1
Yousouf, I totally agree with that last statement about the sex being better and lasting longer which improves the relationship overall.
2007-02-05 05:18:59 · update #2
Well. Truth is you should love him/her no matter what. But the fact of the matter is physical attraction is important in a relationship. Ive been married 13 years and still do things to make sure my husband still finds me attractive and sexy. Dont want him to loose interest. Men are very visual so they will not be as attracted to you if you arent taking care of yourself physically. Women on the other hand are more emotional. Treat them right, and it usually doesnt matter to them how physically attractive you are if they love you.
2007-02-04 09:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I personally think that nowadays in this current modern society, that many people look more for physical attraction then they ever did before. No longer are the majority women just marrying men for personality in the American Society, now it seems that looks plays a HUGE (shallow) role. I mean no wonder you get a 50% divorce rate in the U.S. and other urbanized countries. I'm not surprised either that most of the women that answered your questino agreed with me as well.
In my opinion I do think that if the partner's are attracted to each other, the sexual relationship will most likely last longer and thus the overall relationship can benefit from that as well.
2007-02-05 13:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can have a satisfying sexual relationship with your partner if you do not find them physically attractive. Sure you may love your mate for alot of reasons, but I think you still want to be physically attracted to them a little. If your not then there is not going to be any sex.
2007-02-04 17:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes physical attraction does matter some and is a help HOWEVER if you still love each other no matter what it really is what is inside the heart that counts i feel.
2007-02-04 18:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what anyone says if you love your spouse but when you look at them and don't like what you see because they let themselves go you won't have a good sex life.You have to be physically attracted to someone to sexually attracted.Maybe some people don't but I would.I try to stay physically attractive for my husband because its not fair to let yourself go just because you are married.
2007-02-04 18:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by samwise25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyones idea of attractiveness is different. when you really love someone they are attractive to you no matter what anybody else thinks. the problems come when the person starts to not take care of themself as well as they used to. and really it's not so much that the person has become less attractive as it is that the person is feeling less attractive. if you can't convince yourself that you are sexy, how are you going to convince somebody else? with all that said, yes, i think you should do your best to be attractive to your partner as long as it is does not involve compromising your beliefs (implants, gastric bypass, plastic surgery).
2007-02-04 17:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife grows more beautiful every day, and I adore her with every fiber of my being. Yes, there's physical attraction there, but there are a lot of pretty faces and hot bodies out there. None make my heart skip a beat like my wife does.
2007-02-04 17:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter but it does. Yes you can still be in love with them but if you are not attracted to them, your sex life will suffer. My husband tells me how beautiful I am everyday, and I tell him how hansome he is. We both know there are things that we both can improve to enhance our sex life, but we are in love with each other and that is all that matters.
2007-02-04 17:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by cassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks aren't everything it's whats on the inside that counts. The older you get the more you will lose your looks and in the end it comes down to who they are and not what they look like.
2007-02-04 21:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself, but when I marry a person, I want her for life regardless of what she looks like down the road.
2007-02-04 17:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋