Currently i'm in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. I would one day like to have kids but my wife (although she told me before getting married and i'm not blamming her) doesn't want any kids. We don't do much together at all, she is somewhat antisocial, therefore only likes to stay in. We only have sex whenever she feels like and that's once every 2 or 3 months if i'm lucky. It's been going on for a few years now and we even sleep in seperate rooms. Eventually it led to infidelity on my part. I have told her just recently and it didn't seem to devastate her at all. Her reply was i've been cheated on before. Now with this lack of affection in my marriage has had me thinking about this young woman (single) I met at the park. She is very nice, sweet and has me wishing I had met her 9 years ago instead of my wife. I constantly think about her and in february this woman and I will be in the same night class. Any thoughts anyone?
2007-02-04 09:21:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that your marriage definitely has some serious issues that needs to be addressed. I think that when you get married, you are taking an oath before God and this person that you will be with her for better or worse..etc, so i think that it should be honored. This is my opinion, but trust that God can fix any problem that you may have if you believe in Him and pray for your marriage. The passion that you felt for each other when you were married is still there, but you need to tap into it. If you need to go to marriage counselling, then do whatever you need to do because it's your marriage. As for you wanting to spend time with this new single girl...that's all temporary because everything is PERFECT in the beginning. Both of you will say and do all the right things to make things work. Stick with your wife and do EVERTHING that you know how to make your marriage work. There may be other things that are going on with your wife that you may be unaware of, so take the time to find out what's going on with her. Your marriage is sacred and should be treated as such. Good luck
2007-02-04 10:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a divorce is your next step. Don't start anything with the young woman just yet. Don't put her in the middle of that mess. Sorry you have had such a lonely, sad marriage. But things will get better once you figure out what to do.
2007-02-04 10:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the last person to tell someone to leave a marriage, but it seems your wife check out on you a long time ago.
File for a divorce and begin enjoying life my dear man...Life is too short to be with someone who doesnt want to work on improving the relationship.
2007-02-04 09:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that you have to make this choice. But to me it sounds like you have not been 'married' for a long time. You fell out of love with her a long time ago, if this other women makes you happy and you believe that you are really in love with her, get the divorce, but explain the situation to the new women, make thing final with your current wife befor making a comitment to her. For me and my husband, we were just friends and he moved in with me while he was going through his divorce and we fell in love. he made things final with her befor an 'offical' commitment was made to me. I have alot of respect for the way he went about all of it and it just seem to be the right way to do things. Good luck in the choice that you make and i hope you find the love that you are searching for.
2007-02-04 09:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to get out. Maybe she is feeling the same way since she didn't seem to have any reaction to your infidelity. Sometimes people grow apart. There's nothing much you can do about it. Also if you are constantly having thoughts about other women, who should get out now before you hurt your wife anymore.
Good Luck!
2007-02-04 09:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sonya S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife sounds like she has no interest whatsoever in the relationship. It sounds as if you two do not have any kids. It is time to do something with the rest of your life rather than waiting and hoping she will change - which she will not. I would divorce her and move on.
2007-02-04 09:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that divorce is the best choice... you and your wife seemed to be on separate pages. You shouldn't be forced to live your life with somone who has different views than you. Although I strongly disagree with your decision to cheat, it's a sign that you need to on with your life.
2007-02-04 10:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imo, if it's leading you to infidelity, you should probably just make a decision to either fix your marriage or do right by her and just divorce her.
2007-02-04 09:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife obviously have not true affection or feelinsg for each other if you both can cheat on each other and not care. Your relatiosnhip is loveless. I would consider getting a divorce if you feel none of these things can change.
2007-02-04 09:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by psvoss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id divorce her and find some one that always wanted children
2007-02-08 07:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋