If a husband/wife couldnt give their spouse a reason for no sex for 2 months would anybody find this odd and no the reason isnt cheating so dont go there and im not being naive or in denial cause i know my husband.so dont assume
2007-02-04 09:09:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well pegi i know my husband he wouldnt cheat on me and i only said dont assume cause people always do assume someone is cheating when they DONT even know the person
2007-02-04 09:34:16 · update #1
Maybe he has lost interest in you or he is just to tired..Maybe he needs to see the DR and get some Viagra
2007-02-04 09:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question frightens me because you are being closed minded about your situation. Now I don't know too many men that can go without sex willingly for 2 months, lets get that out in the open.....sometimes tough love is what you need, now I don't know you from Adam but I'm telling you something is definitely going on there whether you want to recognize it or not. Some of the best men in the world whose wives or girlfriends would bet you a million dollars they are not cheating and would have lost the bet, again I don't know you but there is something going on.
Is your husband under a lot of stress, did he just lose his job or did he have a loss in the family, are you all fighting and arguing a lot, did you just have a baby in the last few months or are you pregnant-it could be a multitude of things but until you get help you won't know what the problem is. You all need counseling to figure out what is going on, If you don't want to see a therapist see a pastor but you need help this is not normal.
I was just shocked to see you become so defensive about this situation before anyone could respond because he does have signs of someone who might be cheating but I can't say that he is.
I hope you don't think I was being rude but you are screaming for help because apparently your husband is not willing to talk about what's going on, maybe if he has a good friend you can talk with him to see if anything is going on.
Good luck :)
2007-02-04 17:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason is a poor excuse. Everything we do deserves some sort of apologetics! Wisdom rarely starts with " Duh... I don't know"! You may need to put a shock into his system to get this answered. Like leaving the house for a week or so. I did this with my first wife after she gave me the same answer to the same question of yours. When she asked me to come back I said just answer the question, responsibly. We divorced soon after. That was why she didn't want intimate relations. I suspect she fooled around with her boss, a Missionary from our church. She lost her husband, her kids, her honor, and her reputation all in one stupid action.
2007-02-04 17:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened in my relationship for 8yrs. Was married for 23 yrs I never got a reason. Never. I asked all kinds of questions. We finally got divorced, for other reasons. The sex thing is still a mystery to me. He did have back problems, mabe it caused impotence, and he did not want to tell me. We didn't have good communication. So mabe that was it. I guess I will never know.
2007-02-04 17:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be a lot of factors, considering you've ruled out cheating he could have problems at work that are stressing him out, he could have confidence issues, could be bored with 'routine sex', maybe you've got problems aside from this which you haven't disclosed to us and this is whats bothering him. just one more thing, how many women have found out their husbands have been cheating and have had no ideas? we all have to trust our husbands, I'm sorry to say this cos i know its not what you want to hear but you've obviously considered this option already? good luck and i hope its something you can both work out
2007-02-04 17:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by sue brew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My situatin is the opposite. My wife wouldn't have sex with me and the reason was she didn't want to get pregnant even though we use protection and do it when she's not ovulating and using. It eventually led to me being unfaithfull.
2007-02-04 18:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he can't get it up and he's embarrassed to tell you about it. and if he doesn't want to tell you he certainly isn't going to go to a doctor. ask him if that is the problem. if it is, you are going to have to work your a** off to convince him to see a doctor about it. it could be a simple fix but it could be something a lot more serious. if he is having that problem, he really needs to get help. hope he listens to you.
2007-02-04 17:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is odd. I believe you when he says he isn't having an affair. What's the point of having an affair if you aren't having your cake and ice cream....I don't know what to say. Does he have and STD maybe?
2007-02-04 17:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i would find it odd but don't get me wrong i would be OK with it but if am her husband i think i deserve a reason
2007-02-04 17:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Giovanni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is over worked or stressed by some thing. Talk to him I am sure that will help or clue you in.
2007-02-04 17:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋