My 15 year old son and I got into a fight a couple of nights ago. His ex girlfriend (gf) had been hanging out with his new gf and she (the ex) told the new one a bunch of stuff about her and and my son. The new gf went back to my son and told her everything she had said. Then, my son was so upest about it because he felt the old gf was trying to break up his new relationship. He and his gf told me about this and I became irritated with the new gf because I felt it was poor judgement on her part to tell my son everything the ex gf had said especially considering we all know she is dishonest most of the time. My son became angry with me because he felt I was blaming his new gf for the mess and I said that it could have been avoided if only she had stopped the ex right away from even talking about my son. Now, my son doesn't want to talk to me at all and neither does his gf.
2007-02-04 09:01:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let him find out the hard way.. let him live a little so he can know a little about how the real life is....
2007-02-04 09:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right, but sometimes it better just to listen to them and let them work it out between themselves unfortunatly. I am sure your son knows that you are right and doesnt want to admit it and the girlfriend is proubly feeling guilty over the whole situation.
It sounds like your son, new gf and old gf need to all have a talk together and get the situation resolved.
Do you talk with the ex gf? Maybe you could tell her that although she may care about your son it is proubly a good idea to stay out of his new relationship and find a guy who cares just as much for her as she does him.
Tell her she deserves that much. By doing that you will come across as caring for her but also putting some distance inbetween the old and new gf. good luck.
2007-02-04 17:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you were wrong for blaming the new girlfriend. she was showing maturity and respect to your son by not keeping anything from him. i would think you would want you son to be with someone who was honest. the ex is the one you need to watch out for. she is trying to break them up and if the new girlfriend starts to keep things from your son the ex will succeed. i think you owe your son and his new girlfriend an apology.
2007-02-04 17:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you involving yourself in high school drama? You should know better. This will all work out in the end and all involved parties will get over this mini-melodrama. You should stay out of this altogether. It's a learning experience for your son and your meddling will compromise that.
2007-02-04 17:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is wrong to blame the new girlfriend for this because maybe she was just trying to be open and honest with your son i don't think that she should've kept secrets from him however i don't think that she should be friends with his ex either. his ex sounds like a trouble maker.
2007-02-04 17:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them space they'll get over it. Don't admit that you did anything wrong. You didn't.
2007-02-04 17:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋