Okay, my friend is in her 40th week of pregnancy so she's due to give birth any day. She's been accusing her ex of being the father but the truth is she got pregnant AFTER they broke up because they didn't have sex for two weeks before they broke up. Week one of the "no sex" was her period and the 2nd week they were mad at each other & didn't do anything. She got pregnant the weekend after they broke up. However, she's been dogging this guy for the last 9 months. Now here's the craziest part... he said he wanted a paternity test & she agreed... her doctor told her the baby's been right on with the dates of her LMP which means there's virtually no chance her ex is the father!!!! What is she thinking? Oh yeah, she's even been telling her ex that there's not way it's not his because she wasn't with anyone else (but she was)... Is she just bluffing in hopes he'll eventually believe her or could she honestly think it's his even though she knows she wasn't with him when she ovulated??
2007-02-04 08:45:51 · 22 answers · asked by Fairy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ALSO, THIS GIRL IS ONE OF THOSE "FEEL SORRY FOR ME" TYPES. SHE'S ALL THE TIME LYING TO GET PEOPLE'S ATTENTION & TO GET THEM TO FEEL SORRY FOR HER. SHE'S ALL THE TIME IN PAIN, OR SICK, OR SOMEONE'S BEING MEAN TO HER. ANYTHING BAD THAT'S HAPPENED TO YOU... SOMETHING WORSE HAS ALWAYS HAPPENED TO HER... LIKE SHE'S GOTTA TOP YOU OR SOMETHING...
2007-02-04 08:49:33 · update #1
To: Sexy Mama
I do trust my friend & that's how I know she WAS with somebody else. At the start she told me all this but as the pregnancy progressed she changed the story... & to the others... I'm not bad mouthing her I'm just stating facts...
2007-02-04 09:03:24 · update #2
time will tell....literally !!!!if she is 40 weeks and her ex dont believe her YET, it aint goin down. hes gonna go for that test and the truth will be OUT for all to see. chances are he knows, just like you, what type of person she is. just hold her hand because she is in for a let down.
and dont listen to anyone tryin to say u are a bad friend. i had a friend for a decade who was like yours, a liar, but we were good friends and that was all that mattered . no matter how many times i tried to steer her right she had to learn from her own mistakes and thats ok. everytime it blew up in her face i just stood by her i think now she is a better person for it!
2007-02-04 11:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by jean grey 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is possible to get pregnant while on your period, or even right before if it's still in the fallopian tube and doesn't get expelled with everything else.... So you can't really rule out completely that he is the father. The odds are not as high as anyone who might have had sex with her midway between that period and the next, but it's still possible because ovulation CAN occur anytime. She may be bluffing(or hoping it's his) and hoping things will work out with him, but that's on her conscience, not yours! He'll find out when the paternity test results come back (if he's smart enough to go through with it), and then he'll know what kind of person she really is and can take responsibility for his kid, or leave her if it's not his and (hopefully) not talk to her anymore, but find somebody better.
2007-02-04 09:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to be in this situation let her,I know its your friend but its her business...nothing is going to change what chocies she has made...there always could be the possibility that they had sex when they were mad at eachother but she just didnt tell u that,or if she did cheat on him then thats something she has to deal with...Once the DNA test results come out that will be it and there will be no more guessing games..Just let her handle what she needs to take care of and let what happens happens.as long as this baby has 1 strong parent in the relationship thats all that really matters right now *that baby* ...
2007-02-04 09:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait til she gets the results of the paternity test.
That is the ONLY way to prove who are the biological parents.
My opinion? Maybe she slept with a really awful person, and would rather her ex be the father, than this awful man.
2007-02-04 08:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let her take the paternity test. This child will have the right in it's life to know who it's father is. It doesn't matter what her reasons are, it's always best to think of the child.
2007-02-04 09:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, dropping a newborn at that time isn't classed as a miscarriage, she had a stillborn. I doubt she is dropping her techniques. She lost a newborn!! that would take a significant toll on a man or woman. i might think of she needs to get some clinical care to help her out.
2016-12-17 09:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would have had to have been with her 24/7 to know for sure who she was sleeping with when. It sounds as if she is telling different people different stories. Maybe she is just REALLY hoping that the guy is the dad. Just try to be a good friend to her and be ready for the sh** to hit the fan if he turns out not to be the dad.
2007-02-05 12:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. she has every right to find out if the ex is the father, because when it comes to pregnancy...you NEVER know. it's not an exact science dear.
2. you sure do know a LOT about your friends sex life.
3. it's really none of your d@mn business if she decides to test the ex for paternity or not.
4. why the heck do you care so much?
and finally...if she's such a pain in the @ss why are you her friend? a true friend wouldn't be bashing you on the internet...i feel bad for this girl, your an awful friend talking about her behind her back like this.
2007-02-04 08:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Why are you still friends with her? How stressful. Since they've both agreed to a paternity test, everything will be out on the table soon.
2007-02-04 08:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think she should not even be having a child, she sounds very immature and it sounds like she may have something mentally wrong with her.
After he gets the test done and it comes back that he is not the dad that is it, she is no longer allowed to bug him or he can report her to the police for harrassment. Paternity test do not lie and I think she is very foolish to try and pull something like this when a paternity test is going to prove he is not the dad and she is the one that is going to have to pay for it which is like 200 or 300 dollars. By law if the guy comes back not the father the mother of the baby must pay for the test.
¤§ Darkness Wanderer §¤ STFU she came here for help and because she obviously cares about her friend, her baby and the man she is harrassing. I just can not stand people like you, your just so damn ignorant and try to put down people when they are trying to get help, it is pathetic.
2007-02-04 08:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋