Going down..............?

Question

hi friends m going down......... I use to do sex everyday with my wife. But now after 1 daughter i dont feel to do sex over 3 months now.......
Plz help me n my married life........

Answer 1

I know how difficult it is to get back into the normal swing of things after having your first baby but carry on you must!! As well as all the broken sleep and extra work a new baby brings it is really important to take care of yourselves as well!! If you don't then your precious little bundle won't have much of a chance now will she. Sounds like you've not been eating enough foods rich in the B Vitamins and Zinc.Try eating more Vit B foods - Whole grains, brown rice, organ meats, fish, poultry legumes, nuts, green leafy vegetables, eggs, cheese, milk. Food rich in Zinc are - sunflower seeds, seafood, organ meats, mushrooms, brewer's yeast and soybeans. Without foods rich in zinc in your diet you will be very lethargic, weak with no inclination for physical activity. Lack of B vitamins in your diet will cause gastric and digestive disturbances, skin and mouth cracking and sores, constipation, bad breath, body odour. Please try to get a multivitamin B complex supplement (tablets) if you can't manage to eat any better. Good Luck and good health to you both. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy too!!!



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Answer 2

Hi there.

Us married guys have quite the predicament, don't we? Jokes abound about how sex is from now on the same ol' same ol', and that it decreases in time. Sure, there's some truth to it, but a lot that isn't true to it, either!

(Scientists have discovered a food that decreases a woman's sex drive by 50%. It's called wedding cake.)

The thing of it is, it's not the marriage that's to blame. It's not the committing to one person for life. It's the routine. The plain, dry, stale, routine. You get up, go to work, come home, eat, and go to bed. Repeat until nauseaus. And, if typical in today's society, you get divorced and start the whole thing over again. Lather, rinse, repeat.

You don't have to settle for that. I won't--and I'm happier now in my marriage than I've ever been before. And no, I'm not going to sell you anything or link you to someone else who will. I'm instead going to tell you about something you've already done... but tends to slide away under the steady grind of routine and worry. One word. Rediscovery.

When the two of you hooked up, wasn't life fun? Going new places together, meeting new people, getting the other person's take on whatever? That gets hard to do when you settle down. Bills need paid, making your job necessary. Your daughter needs raised, so of course that simply adds to the mix. It's easy to feel trapped--but you're not. Here's some ideas that worked for my wife and I, and I'm sure there's something in here you can use.

1) Go to the card isle of your local store. I know it's not your anniversary. It's not anyone's birthday. And that's why it's so effective--she'll never see it coming. Choose carefully, though: What cards sum up the way you felt about her the moment you decided to propose to her? Once you've done this a time or two, you can just get blank cards and write your own stuff in there (which she won't forget)... but since this might be new, try reading over a few of them. The gesture is what we're looking at here, and it counts.

2) Do you have any comedy clubs around? Ask your buddies. Getting the hell out of the house and having an evening of laughter reinforces that the two of you have fun together. So what if you'll come home afterward, let the sitter go, and pretty much have an ordinary night beyond that? The day's handed to you in sections--moment to moment--so it's nobody's fault but your own if you don't make use of them. No comedy club around? There's always light-hearted movies. Just the two of you, understand--just the two of you.

3) Do you find yourself thinking about her while you're at work, and find that you actually do have a moment where you can call her? Dial, brother! You don't even need to have anything to say to her... just tell her you were thinking about her and wanted to hear the sound of her voice. Everyone wants to feel important--there's no way this gesture will be lost on her. Even if all you get is a voicemail box, she'll know you made the effort.

4) You're on the computer now reading my long-winded reply, right? Go to Hallmark.com and pick out an E Card to mail her. They're free, you can add personal remarks in them, and they'll make it fun for her to do something that SHE probably thinks is routine: Checking her Email.

Here's why I want you to do this stuff. I know it sounds like you're the one doing all the work--but sometimes a ball won't roll until someone gives it the push. She married you. She said, "I do." Everything bugging you has to be bugging her, too--and she's not going to let you go that easily. Before long, you'll also find notes in your pocket from her. You'll also get suggestions from her as to things she'd like to go and do. She'll surprise you!

This isn't about sex. Never was. Think about it! Every woman in the world has the same equipment... and even though each woman has different likes and dislikes, the basis of sex is pretty much the same thing with every one of them. Isn't sex more wonderful when it's with your best friend? The one you have fun with? The one who knows you better than, I'm sure, you know yourself? Put that spark back into your marriage, and you'll be changing those sheets pretty regularly again... one step at a time!

Absolutely the best of luck to you--you can do this!

Answer 3

Yes I go down

Answer 4

If you can't identify the problem and discuss it with your wife, go talk to a counselor. Having a child causes big changes in a marriage, but your wife is the same person who used to turn you on.

Answer 5

well, why don't you feel like having sex? that's what you need to focus on. is your wife having these same feelings? did you start any new medications? are you depressed - all of these things can lead to low sexual desires.

Answer 6

Experiment with different sexual
activity's . that mite work.

If not try sex toys.

Last but not least try
third or fourth party.

Answer 7

sorry