Input or suggestions on partner displaying a lack of consideration.?

Question

I am so fustrated with feeling like I make more compromises on a mental level than my partner. However, I do acknowledge that we're even when it comes to sacrificing understanding one another. I love my partner to death, but the problem is centered around his "Mellow"-yet-"let things slide" attitude he has that comes across as "I've heard it all before, so I don't really care" on my end. We love eachother deeply, and we've been talking for a couple of years now, having been together for a few months. This morning though, it all started to show again when we were discussing his snoring. Now, while I was there, he snored so badly I would get up and sleep on the couch only to become more frustrated. Other nights I would try and deal with it, but he wouldn't even be considerate and get up so I could sleep instead, not once. Yet,he pulled his usual by saying he wouldn't budge, ever since it was his bed. Other than this, he's perfect. How do I put it into words so he'll understand how I feel

Also, another issue I have with this is that when I give him room by saying "You're right" or really giving him the benefit of the doubt, he eats it up and really assumes he's won and dominates the conversation or disagreement. We are both stubborn, but I'm tired of feeling like he just doesn't understand me when I repeat constantly what Im trying to tell him (yes I do explain in various ways if he says he still doesn't understand, such as using examples). Nor, do I like to come off as a know it all which he makes me feel sometimes by adding tiny details to a retort such as "Well you don't know much about medicine, but the doctor who has years of experience and went to school does" for example. Things like that hurt me, and I have 3 years of college under my belt (massage practitioner and forensic science), and he has been climbing his career latter since he's worked as a diamontologist. So he never went to school and sometimes I think because I have and he hasn't it makes a difference

We do talk, all the time. I am straightforward also. However, sometimes when he is "straightforward" he tends to be rigid and to the point rather than considerate of my feelings. Grant it this is a generation gap of a relationship, we are very similar.

Violet Pearl- It's not a compatability issue.

Anonymous- I do research, and quite a bit. That's the problem, I do it FOR him when he should. I am concerned on one level and annoyed on another. I'm sure you don't purposely go and find the biggest snorer and sleep next to them. It's linked to health issues, and he is overweight, so don't think for a moment I am nit picking or being a control freak. I'll disregard your wasted attempt at an "answer" as nothing more than a self-righteous jab.

Answer 1

Record his snoring, so he will hear how bad it is. Methods I have used on my hubby are, shove them on their side, they only snore, when they are sleeping on thier backs, if you get them to roll them over it stops the snoring, keep this up and they start sleeping on thier sides, also the nose bands you can buy at the drug store help a little.

Answer 2

Snoring? You have to be kidding me. He is not doing it on purpose. Snoring can be a sign of health issues so instead of beating him up for something he cant control...do some research on snoring online, show him what you have found and ask him to go to a doctor.

My dad had this problem, my mom would always go sleep in another room. BECAUSE HE WAS NOT DOING IT INTENTIONALLY.

If you dont stop being so damn controlling, you are going to lose this man. Why should he apologize for snoring..wtf. Grow up.

Answer 3

It's simple: you and he are not compatible. Period.
Find someone you're more compatible with and stop beating a dead horse.

Answer 4

Talk to him and tell him