I was out last night with work colleagues and a girl who I work with said she wanted to clear the air (I thought everything was ok). She said to me:
She wants us to get on - at work and outside
Told me that I should drop the 'attitude'
She wants to trust me and hopes that I don't back stab her e.g. talk about her behind her back
She wants us to get to know each other better
Meaning???
When we're alone we find it difficult to talk to each other and it goes silent ASAP.(happened today at work!)
Each time we talk, I find it more uncomfortable/difficult as I don't know what to say!She's asked if I'd go to her birthday bash in a few weeks - I don't know what to say???
Why did she feel the need to 'clear the air'???
Suggestions?Advice?
p.s. she has a Boyfriend of 2 years.Colleagues say we have a love/hate WORK relationship and that we do flirt with each other-but it don't mean nothing!
Says she don't do 1 night stands - I don't believe she fancies me.........
2007-02-04 08:10:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Could she just want to become friends???
2007-02-04 08:18:26 · update #1
There is tension bwt us when we speak-I don't know what it is-colleagues have also noticed it.
2007-02-04 08:27:18 · update #2
She could fancy you but not sure what to do as she has a boyfriend. Why else would she want to get to know you better? Maybe she thinks you dont like her as there is always silence int he room when you two are together and does not want that. Do you know what us women are strange at times. Ask her what she meant by it, only she can give you the right answer, just go and ask her next time you are at work in privacy.
Oh and Good luck
2007-02-04 09:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is like asking me if I want ketchup or mustard with my peanut butter sandwich. I am not making fun. This whole thing is such a double signal. There is a standard rule for all double signals: cut everybody a whole lot of slack. Which is another way of encouraging compassion. Try to get a bead on what she is saying because right now she apparently is saying more than one thing at the same time. Find out what she really is trying to say and then address yourself to that. Put another way, if it continues to be impossible with her, put some distance between yourself and her. The bottom line is not to allow her to upset you, and if you can manage to do it, find out what she is really trying to tell you, all at the same time. If you can do that you should probably be doing research projects for Google.
2007-02-04 12:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think she definitely has more in mind than friends. Second, if she has a boyfriend of 2 years, she wouldn't need to get to know another man better-unless she was feeling you out. If she mentioned that she does not do one-night stands-then it has crossed her mind. She could also be trying to lay ground work so she doesn't get used or to let you know she is interested in more than a one-night stand. I am a psych major but am just offering honest opinion as a woman.
2007-02-04 08:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No lecture from here just ..... advice ! You need protein, fiber, green vegetables, and fruit to survive. If you want to lose weight then lessen your fat consumption and concentrate on the above food types. Drinking 6-8 glasses of water a day is just fine. The sugar free gum will just rot your teeth. Drink a protein drink with fresh fruit & yogurt in the morning. Eat a salad with almonds & no salad dressing for lunch. Have lean meats & green veggies for dinner. With your exercising plan (which an hour each day is good) you will lose weight.
2016-05-24 05:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude!! Its all words to lead up to the big ones. I think she has something to say, so keep quiet and see if she says it, there's no need to mention one night stands unless the conversation went that way, and if it did she's way to comfortable with you for a girl with a boyfriend of two years. I know they have modern women but conversation is conversation and one thing does lead to another. Say nothing. When in doubt say nowt. Tell us what she says. If I were you I would believe it.!!! dude!!!!
2007-02-04 11:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by DAWN M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably a bit drunk but she fancies you ,...............but she has a boyfriend! If the attraction is mutual it WILL happen eventually, boyfriend or no boyfriend.Be patient and see what happens........................
2007-02-04 09:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you ask exact same question last week?
2007-02-04 10:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she fancies you if not leave well alone.
2007-02-04 08:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by driver3260 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋