this morning i checked his and found flirty emails from a coworker. and he's the one who's furious that i looked at his email.
2007-02-04 08:08:20 · 44 answers · asked by sweet_shy_blondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course he is angry...he got caught. Of course, it does say that you have trust issues, but as you found out, you were right in those issues. I would never read my girls email, unless i thought something was seriously wrong. Good thing you found out now though instead of years down the road
2007-02-04 08:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even if you are married for years you don't really have the right to read other people's emails. Maybe you should put an end to this guy and start over. If I want to show my husband something I get in an email, I do, but would be upset if he was in there without asking. Just like getting into someones purse or diary.... you may not like what you find.
Whatever happened to privacy?
2007-02-04 10:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, no no no! No one has a right to "check" (read snoop) anyone else's email. He has every right to be upset. And regarding the content of his inbox... he really can't help what others send him. Do you invite all the spam you get? Maybe he should not have kept them, that's his call. If the roles were reversed you would be screaming like a gut-shot panther, you know you would!
All that said, if I were you I would simply apologize and write the password to your account on a slip of paper and offer it to him. He won't accept it, but it will go a long way to calming him down. In the grand scheme of things this probably isn't that big of deal anyway, is it? Compared to loving and cherishing someone... assuming you guys do. I'm just saying you screwed up. Acknowledge that and have a really great make-up afternoon!
2007-02-04 09:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you should trust each other. I really think that reading each other's emails is the same thing as checking to see who called their cell phones and opening their mail. It is an invasion of privacy. But you must have thought you had a reason to look at his email as you didn't trust him. He is mad because you caught him.
2007-02-04 08:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never OK to read other people mail whether it is email or regular mail. I also don't think it is right for someone to go through pants pockets or women purses.
Stay out of each others email.
If you don't trust this person you are in the wrong relationship.
I know I don't want anyone wife, girlfriend, enemy or friend going through my personal mail or email that is abusing my private space.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
"FIGHT ON"
2007-02-04 08:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Skip 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, you don't have that right. You violated his privacy. He has a right to be furious. He'll probably change his password and won't trust you anymore to let you know what it is. Why were you snooping anyway? Do you have reason to suspect that he's seeing or interested in seeing somebody else? If so, and if you want to maintain the integrity of the relationship, you owe it to yourself AND to him to be open and honest and ask him about it. You were the one being sneaky so don't go putting this off on him.
2007-02-04 08:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by nana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wrong. Just because you two have been dating for over a year doesn't mean that he has given up all his rights to his personal space and privacy to you. Even if you were married, it still would not constitute that kind of behavior.
Unfourtunately, you found mail that has made you upset, but he has the upperhand in this argument.
2007-02-04 19:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's absolutly wrong. However this flirting going on with a co-worker needs to be addressed now that you've found out. Not only do you owe your better half an appology, but so does he cause if he kept it from you then perhaps there is something that he didn't want you to know whatever that may be.
2007-02-04 08:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good you deserved it. You should not check his email at all. You are not married to him you in invade his privacy. You should wouldn't like if he did it to you. Now that you know the question is are you going to stay in a relationship knowing that the guy is getting naughty email? If it where me I would reevaluate my relationship, and what going wrong that he has to send that kind of email to some other woman.
2007-02-04 08:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WRONG! Every human being has the right to some privacy. I've been married for years and won't look at anything of hers I'd consider to be private.
It's called trust and it's the cornerstone of a good relationship.
2007-02-04 08:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋