What would you think if your partner & you have been trying to get back together & you just found out that her ex gave her $5,000 to go buy a car with because the ex said she needed transporttion.. She told me the ex said they felt like it was owed to her since when they lived together that my ex gave up her check for the house payment & only kept $100 a month out for herself. Was this right for her to take this money since we are trying to get back together?
2007-02-04 08:03:28 · 14 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes she should have taken the money and i think your real question is ... is she having some kind of relationship with her other ex and no she isn't
2007-02-04 08:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by k s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you two are obviously in the early stages of your relationship, if she and her ex recently ended their relationship, then she's sort of still in transition. He might be trying to be nice to her, because he was such an *** for only allowing her to have 100 dollars a month to herself. More than likely she hated that life, and just because he gave her money for a car, doesn't mean she will go back to him.
2007-02-04 08:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all good. In reality people who really loved each other will most likely never stop loving each other. But this doesn't mean that they want to go back to living with them. After thinking this through most people realize that they can't go back and that it would be best for them to go on with their lives.
I can relate to your concern however. It must be uncomfortable to witness expressions of love from a third party when you are trying to seal the deal on a relationship. I think you can only loose if you try to get between her and her friends and other relationships even if you were to develop some sense of immediate satisfaction.
If she isn't ready to focus her love onto you, then you will eventually know this and can let her go where she thinks is best for her. Besides, who needs to live in a divided house?
I hope that you are able to grow more secure in your relationship and that casual expressions of love are not able to dislodge the stability of your love.
2007-02-04 08:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Two Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't read anything into it. Did you offer her the money for a car?
When I split with my ex, I gave him back the $30k SUV because I could no longer afford the payments. But then I needed another vehicle but couldn't get it on my own credit, so I had to ask the ex for help.
He did, and my auto is in both our names until I pay it off. I certainly wasn't going to ask my bf to help me (he's now my fiance but wasn't then) and I certainly didn't have the cash to buy a vehicle but I most definitely required transportation.
My bf had no issue with it whatsoever. why should he? and why should you?
2007-02-04 08:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she needed the money, and since the two of you are trying to get back together, she probably should have refused to take it. It depends on how she feels about you and what she thinks are the chances the two of you get back together.
2007-02-04 08:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to have little character or ethics. Taking money from a man was the easy way out-- no point in earning her own money when there's a dude to supply it, right? Of course, she was shacking up out of wedlock with the guy before, so that confirms her low morals, too.
2007-02-04 08:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would she feel if the roles were reversed. If you had given $5000 to an ex of yours and she foundout about it? However she felt like you too have the right to feel just the same.
2007-02-04 08:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her ex actually has a conscience. Unless she displays behavior that indicates she's be untruthful, let it go and be glad that you don't have to pay for her car.
2007-02-04 08:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needed a vehicle and apparently you couldnt afford to buy her one so I would be happy for her.
Then I would ask her to cease all communication with this ex.
2007-02-04 08:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needed the car, yes she was right to take the money, has no bearing on her relationship with u, your just insecure about it, and want to be the only one giving her money.
2007-02-04 08:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋