Im in love with a married man with two kids and its been a year and a half now since we been together. We both love each other but i dont feel right. For some reason im tired of being the other woman, and my instincts are telling me to break it up but i just cant because i dont want to get hurt or even hurt him too..What should i do???
2007-02-04 07:51:50 · 39 answers · asked by lovelygurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let go, leave, and never look back.
2007-02-04 07:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you gotta let him go even though it will tear you apart inside. The reason being is you can't break apart his marriage that would be way wrong especially taking his kids away from their dad. The kids may even grow up hating their father, for choosing the other women over their mom, that's just cruel. In so many ways your actions can brutally hurt the lives of many people and that's just wrong. You gotta stop being selfish and think how you could hurt these people. Staying in the relationship won't go anywhere either due to the fact, you will never marry him there is no future, only lies and pain and sadness cause you'll never have anything more. You need to find a better, and healthier relationship where you and your partner are in it completely.
2007-02-04 10:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by bulldogsr2cute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello....The guy is married!!!! Both of you are in the wrong here. If you want to do something about it, call his wife and tell her that you are the woman that her husband has been sleeping with. One of two things will happen here. He will either leave his wife or they will get counseling. If he leaves her, don't count on being the one he runs to simply because he will most likely be very upset with you. If they get counseling then you have just done something right and you should be happy about it. I think you should move on and find someone that isn't married so that way you don't have to be secretive about anything. Basically, follow your instincts here and break it off.
2007-02-04 08:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard situation to be in you don't know whether to run or walk. If he loves you like you love him then it's up to him to take a stand. It's true you shouldn't be dating a married man but sometimes a situation isn't like it looks. You can't make yourself not love someone no matter how hard you try. You need to set down with him and find out where this affair is going and if he says I can't a divorce than if he really loves you , tell him than I want be seeing you anymore. If he really does love you than he is the one to fix what is holding both of you in a terrible position. if you have to walk away , I know it is the hardest thing in the world to do. I had to walk away and I will always love him until the end of time, but I moved 500 hundred miles away from them and he calls me all the time crying I cry. When something is beyond your control you just have to live with a heart that aches everyday but that's life, I guess. if you hear song that reminds you of him , turn it off cause when you cry you cry alone. Religion and money always wins, so best of luck.in your lonely life.
2007-02-04 08:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is a word of common sense that may seem brash, but it is to the point.
Drop him like a hot rock. No matter what this man says, he doesn't respect you and he is using you for one thing. Why? Because you allow yourself to be used by him by continuing to have anything to do with him. The fact that you're willing to let yourself be "second string" for over a year only shows that you don't love yourself enough to refuse to settle for the "backseat"....which means respect yourself enough to drop him and move on. Regardless of whatever love you think you may feel....you can't fully love others until you love yourself first. Second, his actions do not prove his love to anyone involved...not for you, not for his current wife or his kids. Even if he did leave his current wife, the probability is that he will cheat again in the next relationship is pretty high. ...Not to mention the risk of unwanted pregnancies and STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) that he could be transmitting from one of his partners to the next.
All I'm saying is that you are only hurting yourself by continuing to carry on a realtionship with a married man. He is hurting is current wife and kids as well as himself. There is no true love to be found in a relationship that was started and is based on lies.
2007-02-04 08:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we can't always chose who we fall in love with. However, we can control how we act. You should leave this man alone. He has the best of both worlds and has no real concern for anyone but himself or he wouldn't be the selfish s.o.b. that he is being. Think of how his children will feel if they ever find out what their father has done to their mother. Also, my theory is what you do with me, you will do to me. So the same way you got together with this man is the same way you will lose him. He will continue to "play" with you until the next best thing comes along. Additionally, you say you "don't want to get hurt" but it sounds like you are already hurting. So is it really worth it? Leave him, honey, and find someone who will put you first. Good luck.
2007-02-04 08:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Here 2 Help 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him go because it is the right thing to do. Yes, it will hurt both of you but think of the children. Would you really risk those children's lives just so both of you can have what you want? At least not in this kind of situation. If he loves you more than he loves his wife (maybe the sparks between them disappeared) he would do something about it for the two of you to not have to live in guilt. He will be willing to divorce her just so he can be with you if he really loves you that much. If not, he might still love his wife and probably they are just going through a rough time. Thing is, he might just be using you as a "meantime" partner. Think of all the possiblities. Thinking about it will hurt you, yes, but if the worst case scenario is to happen, it probably wouldn't hurt as much anymore because you have given it thoughts. By the way, if you love him so much, will you accept his children as if they're yours?
2007-02-04 08:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He simply loves his wife more than you. To be honest he probably loves his wife and loves you sucking his cock. Plus If he leaves his wife for you, he will leave you for another. Once a cheater always a cheater. He can tell you till he is blue in the face that he will leave his wife, but " action speaks louder than words". Listen, if he can pull chicks half his age and wanted to leave his wife, he would have done it a long time ago! Once you are a little older he probably wont want you anymore and he will have to find another dumb young girl. Do you ever imagine him as your father? Creepy. Does he ever ask you whos your daddy? Grow up, wise up and find a single man , preferably one closer to your age who respects you. This old guy obviously doesnt. Hey I have an idea, he probably has a son your age. Sorry, to be so harsh, but if you dont end this behavior now, you will deserve the misery that will follow you the rest of your life.
2016-05-24 05:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off. It was not the best thing to do to begin with, You are the other woman. If you were married would you accept that from your husband or cheat on him. Find a single man and have a great relationship.
2007-02-04 08:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah well i hate to tell you this but some one will get hurt in this situation some how. i am just going throw a divorce been married almost 5 year with him 7 year have a butiful 5 year old daughter he cheated on me with his boss any how if he left her for you you may think your not geting hurt and you getting what you want but then you have to listen to what the ppl of the world think about you and what the wife think about you the kids think about you and all the fighting that going to happen he may tell you thing will be fine there be no fight but hunny that not true there will be fighting there hurt feeling there question there so much of every thing especially with kids invalved it not and easy thing
2007-02-04 09:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by cuddles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurt him? You and his wife are the victims here. He doesn't much care about either one of you enough to stand up and be a real man. Ofcourse, you are tired of being the other woman, you need a man you can call your own, and share a life with, not share him with someone else. Break it off with him, and move on.
2007-02-04 08:04:07 · answer #11 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋