Would You Sign A Pre-Nuptial If You Were Marrying Into A Wealthy Family?

Question

And if his family told you no pre-nup; no marriage.

Answer 1

Good question. If it is the first marriage for the both of you, I would say no. I could understand someone with baggage from being financially hurt in a previous marriage wanting some recourse. If it is the family putting pressure, than it would be a good time to establish the break away from mom and dad and truly put your spouse first.

Answer 2

Who are you marrying -- the guy or the family. Decide. Then, if the guy and his family insist on a pre-nup you have two options. 1) call their bluff, say "no pre-nup" and be prepared to walk away from the situation (very sad) or 2) write a very solid pre-nup that provides protections for you. The pre-nup would have to contain give and take. But be sure to cover yourself and your interests.

I believe pre-nups can be important in some settings. But I've heard attorneys say that in relationships where pre-nups are required, there is little chance the relationship will succeed. We live in a tough world. I reluctantly advise you to do a pre-nup, marry for love, not money, love as best you can. And pray every day that the relationship will be a gift from God to you both. I wish you much love. Cover your own butt.

Answer 3

We generally don't like to think of it this way, but it's true anyway: A marriage is a contractual arrangement.

A pre-nup, then, just spells out the terms of that contract in more specific terms than the laws of your state.

I agree with others that you make sure the pre-nup protects your interests as well as your fiance's. If possible, have your own attorney review it and give you guidance rather than go it alone or depend on the family's attorney. (The family's attorney can only represent one party; [s]he cannot ethically represent you and the family.)

Avoid "giving away the store" in a symbolic attempt to "prove" to the family you are not a gold-digger. The pre-nup is a business matter. The family is treating it as such in order to protect its financial interests. You need to act smart - and not sentimental - by treating it the same way.

So work out the terms to your mutual satisfaction, and then get back into the romantic part.

Answer 4

A pre-num is not a bad thing. I would not get married without one, and I am not a wealthy person.
It depends on how it is written, but does not mean that he is going into the relationship expecting divorce, nor does it mean you will come out penniless.
It is like an insurance policy. You don't plan to have your house burn down, but take out insurance because the concequences if it does are catastrophic.
Same with a pre-nup. With divorce rates running over 50% it just makes good sense. None of these people go into the marriage wanting a divorce, but sometimes they are out of your control.
The pre-num does not mean you will be out of pocket, just that you cannot rob him if things turn sour. Your honey has worked hard/inherited all his money and he should have the right to keep it if you vanish with the pool boy.
Make sure that while you are together, you get an equitable share of what you put in, and you will be right.

Answer 5

If you are really in love with him and are planning to be with him forever then yes you should. I also think it should protect you both. He can't abuse you meaning hitting, cheating and anything else that can go with that. I would have someone that knows what they are doing look at it before you sign it. And if it his family saying that you have to it probably means that he only wants it done so his family is ok with the marriage. So yes do it if you love him so you will have a healthy realationship with the in-laws. nothing is worse than fighting with the in-laws been there done that and it is not fun. good luck and make sure you are going to be happy and this pre-nup does not mess up you realationship together.

Answer 6

I would, but that's just me. If this is coming from his family, I would have a problem. If it was coming from him, then that's a different matter. I know they are just looking out for one of their own, but a marriage is between the two of you. Will they always have the last word in everything thing you two do? Are they usually so involved in your lives? Does your fiance have a backbone? Personally, I like pre-nups. The rate of divorce is just so high. I don't know if this helped you decide at all, but I hope it has. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hi....Yes I would sign a pre-nup but you bet your butt that i would be sure that I was very well took care of if something happened...With a lawyer involved...If you are truly in Love then it should not matter...work out the papers, sign them, and then forget them...Too make a marriage work, it takes the COMMITMENT and never use the pre-nup as an argument....From either side!!!

Answer 8

I wouldn't sign one. Not much of a sign of trust. I think a pre-nup invites failure. Not much incentive to stay together. Too many variables. When my ex told me he wanted a divorce, I gave it to him. I signed a quit claim deed for the house (left him the furniture and everything else in the house), and for my share of his dad's farmland (that his dad put in both our names). I left him the two cars and the pick-up that were paid for, took the new car (with the car pmt), what I could pack in it and left. After he told me that he didn't love me, never had, and that he wanted out. And I didn't need a pre-nup to do it. I think if two people love each other enough to talk about marriage and spending the rest of their lives together then they should be sharing everthing. Pre-nups are for people who don't plan on staying married.

Answer 9

Nope, wouldn't sign it. Marriage should be based on love, trust and respect. Pre-nups are a sign that these things aren't strong enough. Marriages are supposed to be for life and I think it is a bad sign to have an "out" before you even get started. If there was a divorce, I wouldn't want any of their money anyway.

Answer 10

No way!! To me, I believe that if a guy wants you to sign a pre-nup, he believes that the relationship might fail. I also think if a guy wants you to sign a pre-nup, he is more in love with his other possessions more than he is you. If I was told no pre-nup, no marriage, I would say "fine!!" It would definitely be his loss, not mine.