I am finding it hard to meet new people, in work I am limited to about 5 people all of whom are much older than me. I can't meet through other friends as I only have 1 still remaining nearby (the rest have moved away) and she can't go out very often because she has a kid and is a little scared of social sitautions.
Any ideas?
Feeling a little isolated and need inspiration.
2007-02-04 07:00:14 · 11 answers · asked by Hel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have the same problem, having just moved across the country from my home state, but part of my problem is that I'm super shy.
I would suggest taking a class at a community college maybe, or joining a club or organization; volunteering, join a book club, learn a new craft or hobby (knitting and scrapbooking are popular ones, guitar lessons, etc)... that way you'll find people who you have something in common with, too. I'm not talking about just dating, but meeting people to go to a movie with or see a show or something.
Another idea is to use Meetup to find people who have the same interests as you. They have all kinds of different groups - career, singles, books, politics, etc, and people get together and might have a book discussion or I even noticed one called the Naperville Laughter Group (after putting in my zip code in Illinois) where the people who got together went to a comedy club to enjoy a show together.
Good luck! I know it's hard (you think, how the hell did I meet people before??) and overwhelming to meet a bunch of new people.
2007-02-04 08:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by aeshamali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is a scary thought , but have you ever thought about venturing out alone? Believe me you are going to get responses with lots of internet sites because it seems this is the new way to meet people. However i never found any luck in meeting anyone locally that way which was a female NOT A MALE to hang out with. If you are meeting a male off line he usually isn't what you expected from the profile or when talking to him on line when you meet him. Trust me i have been there done that MANY times.
It takes guts when you first enter the local "hot spot" alone,but once you become a "regular" in any spot in town you soon will see that after time you will be surrouned by familiar faces and meet maybe not ALOT of friends to take home into your life but a few good ones. And you might even run into a date or two. Good luck. Don't hide behind the computer screen. GO OUT AN GET IT GIRL!
2007-02-04 07:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your original question, the 20somethings I know who aren't in relationships go through long stretches of being single. Some of them go on a lot of dates in hopes of finding someone they connect with, others just live their lives with the mentality "it happens when it happens". Love, like a roll of the dice, can come up cold many times in a row before it comes up hot. But, you can only win if you're in the game. So, you need to keep looking around until you find a place where you can meet single women, even if just to have as friends. Also, don't dismiss a route until you've tried it. Internet dating's not the best way to meet women, but it's an option, and the experience won't hurt you. As to your inexperience, well, I was a late bloomer, too, and it's not a huge problem. It's not something you need to bring up, and if you act relatively normal, no one will guess. But, you have to meet girls and talk to them. Also, living with your parents -- I gotta say, that might scare a lot of women off. Not because there's anything wrong with it, but because they might wonder if you're really independent and can take care of yourself. If you love your family, live NEAR them, not with them.
2016-05-24 04:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I could recommend the bar scene, but since that is full of drug dealers and drunks and sluts, maybe you should try a church or a new job
I have the same problem: I am around 20 and all I ever have to hang out with are people at least 10 years older than me
And it sucks, but in some ways it's better, but then again older people are more conservative and less fun
I can't wait till I turn 21 so I can go to the bar, but no one-nite stands for me
2007-02-12 06:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be great to just go to maybe McDonalds where the crowds are and walk up to people and introduce yourself? Life is not that way unfortunately. People would wonder what we were up to. However you can meet a lot of trustworthy people in churches and possibly in singles clubs or maybe even the library. Wow it is endless. All it takes now is the courage to TRY it. Good Luck.
2007-02-11 16:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A new trend is speed dating. Basically every single girl sits at a different table (or guys), and the opposite gender spends like 5 minutes at each table (1 to 1 conversation). If two people connect, they exchange numbers/e-mail addresses. If they don't connect, no big deal and move on to the next table.
You could try joining some sort of sport/workout at your local fitness center. Pilates, yoga, tae bo, kick boxing...etc. attract a lot of younger aged women.
2007-02-04 07:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can try an online dating website. There is a new one, www.varietybride.com that posts single women’s profiles from around the world. It is free for single women to post their photos and information about themselves. Single men can contact them for free. Check it out, it is fun and easy. Good luck!
2007-02-08 04:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo personals
2007-02-12 02:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by jo r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try church first. also community socials
2007-02-12 06:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,ect.There are all kinds of places to meet people... you've got to ask yourself ,what kind of person you would like to meet?
what ever you do , please stay out of the bars !!!
there are; parks,church,mall,collages
what ever you do , please be careful out there-due to there are allot of craze's...
2007-02-11 13:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by kidslovedawna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋