I feel like people don't care for me like I care for them, such as my friends (acquaintences etc.)
For instance, I have a good friend that I knew from a little girl. when her baby was sick and put into the hosptial last summer, I rushed there with my daughter as soon as she called me with the news. After that, I called mostly everyday to find out how the baby was doing.
As I said, I have a child as well and she has a sickness that makes her ill from time to time , then she's alright.
People that I call my friends(which r not much) know the situation but , to me, they dont show much of a concern like I would if they have situations in their life. I have let lots of people go because of their insensitivity (to me). I feel people r for themselves and if I am going to be there for them , I should get the same treatment in my time of need. when I tell that person how I feel , they seem to act as if they just dont understand or I'm over reacting. Is it just me ?
2007-02-04 06:42:44 · 6 answers · asked by trish 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This question is important to me, so if your going to joke around , please dont bother to answer.
2007-02-04 06:45:27 · update #1
I completely understand and I've felt the same way. I have had to drop alot of friends recently due to similar circumstances. I used to really believe that these people were just toxic friends but its honestly becoming too common or something. I've recently realized that having 1 good friend who is always there for you that you can depend on as well as she can for you is alot better than having 5 or 6 self centered (seemingly clueless to your situations for whatever selfish reason) friends. I really do think that these insensitive friends are more than insensitive and really don't care whats going on in the lives of others. The major difference between these types of people and you are the quality of friendships that you are able to develop. These fake people only have fake friendships and you on the other hand sound like a genuinly caring person -somebody who can build genuine friendships with other genuine people like you!
2007-02-04 17:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by harmonize 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there many times. I dont think its just YOU. Some people are just not as caring and considered as you. from my own experience you can never expect someone to show they care in the same way you do and thats only because people show they care in many different ways.That being said Anyone who doesent appreciate you for youre kindness and caring nature shouldent be in youre inner circle. Keep the ones who appreciate you for just being YOU! And stop going out of youre way for people who dont seem to care much about youre problems and difficulties in youre life. some friendships are unfortunatly one sided.
2007-02-04 15:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to re-examine the expectations you place on your friends.. and either accept them for who they are, or move on. However, I'd warn you that most people nowadays do not expect other people to "drop everything" to be there for them. Nor do they do that for others.
If you choose to be the type of friend who drops everything to rush to the side of a friend in need, then you should accept the fact that you're an exception to the rule... and not place that expectation on other people. If you're doing things for them only so you will get equal treatment, then you're not really being a "friend" at all, are you?
2007-02-04 15:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean.
Some people are concerned about their friends, others are less so, or not at all. Nothing you do will change them. Accept them for what they are, and associate with them or not as you choose.
It is really helpful to have friends that truly care about you. So look for those that do, and appreciate them. Church can be a good place to meet caring people.
2007-02-04 14:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me you are with "fair weather friends" when they need help they are your friend but when you need help they are nowhere to be found or to busy. Try to affiliate your self with real people. Join a local Church and find out how nice it can be to have real People there for you that honestly care. Good Luck.
2007-02-04 14:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by G V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be both. however you have to choose friends very carefully.
2007-02-04 14:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋