He keeps comparing himself with me w.r.t to cooking. He knows nothing but a potato fry. He spoils my kitchen when we cooks. He always says I ma lazy to prepare my food & eat. I believe only ppl who cook everyday could understand how boring it is to eat ones own preperation. correct me if I am wrong. Am I feeling so or are there many other women who feel the same? Help me? He never suppoorts me when his parents rea there. His parents unnecessarily interfere in my life. They make unwanted statements & comment if I wear pants though my husband is ok with it. How do i react. Do i ignore them or argue with the?
2007-02-04 06:35:34 · 12 answers · asked by Evas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you're right. It gets REALLY tedious doing all the cooking and all the cleaning all the time.
He sounds like he's being nasty to you so perhaps you can let him know it's unacceptable to talk to you that way. You could say, "I don't like it when you talk with me that way. Please stop." If he keeps it up, let him know you insist he stop.
You can also let him know you will be standing up to his parents and you expect him to back you up. If you haven't said anything, he may think you don't mind being treated this way.
If he still won't stop, you can let him know you deserve better and you'll leave if he doesn't shape up within "x" amount of time. And if he hasn't shaped up, you can head out and find someone who treats you with respect.
2007-02-04 06:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing NEVER helps. Instead of focusing on the negative why don't you try focusing on the positive. Your husband should be the person you care about most in the world. It sounds like you need to start looking at all of the wonderful things your husband does for you and let him know how much you appreciate them. He is probably just looking for attention (negative or positive) so give him some good attention!!!
2007-02-04 14:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this happens to allot of woman ,
first of all NEVER let them know that what they do gets to you .
It sounds like your husband likes to compete w/ you . who does things better. Well don't let it show that it bothers you , cause
he will do it even more . I don't know how long you have be married , but as time gos by he will change . Me and my husband went through the same thing but as time went by we became 1 .
Hang in there . Oh and by the way when men and there family's are close to each other they have this thing to were they don't like to back talk them , that will change to ALL in time ... Hope you Good luck I will pray 4 you....God Bless
2007-02-04 14:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mother P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is assuring himself that he is in control of you, and you seem to be allowing it by getting frustrated Deep down inside he feels inferior and by becoming angry you are validating that he is superior, to his mind at least.
To break him of his abusive and neurotic behavior, don't let his
(or anyone else's) behavior bother you. Do not let them rob you of your sense of self. Do not let them control you with anger, fear, or any other display of negative emotion, because that's what negative emotions are: weapons to control another. Instead, say a little prayer to God---"Thank you God for not making me a controlling person, please teach my husband to be not interested in controlling me". You'd be surprised how well this works. In the first place it comforts you, reminds you of the God given right and duty to be yourself, thereby not accepting the role of inferiority.
It has another added factor, it will P*SS HIM OFF that he has lost control. But that's not your problem, that's his.
2007-02-04 15:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Diogenes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all . if someone is rude to me in my own house then they are no longer welcome to visit me in my house.Second, If my husband wants to make me angry on purpose . I make him angrier. I can be even more immature then him if I want to be. Then I say something like. Happy with yourself now for causing ... Or That's what you get for over reacting, Or Just shut up quit whining. You get the picture right.
2007-02-04 17:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do a few things to slow him up....stop cooking, stop being in kitchen when he is there, stop arguing with the nonsense they toss about, stop reacting to the goofy comments. And if all that fails stop being nice to him in bed....that will surely make him sit up and take note.
2007-02-04 14:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well ignoring it is good it just irritates him but that is not a relationship have you had some problems that might be it or he is doin it to kid around talk to him tell him ask him DO him
2007-02-04 14:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kennedy(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change, neither are the parents. I'd say that you have to decide if you can put up with it, or if you're better off without him and them.
2007-02-04 14:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell them what I thought. I'd rather speak my mind and be happy than to hide and not say what I thought. If they like me for me that's fine. If they don't like brutal honesty, to hell with them.
2007-02-04 14:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tljabgdvhj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gosh! I got the same problem as you do. But some of the answers here do gave me an idea, I hope you too. Thanks people!
2007-02-04 17:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by finding_answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋