i really love him and i don't know what to do reather to let him go or keep him.
2007-02-04 06:31:44 · 17 answers · asked by G.G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's not whether or not you love him it is whether or not he loves you & apparantly HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!!! YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER... HONEY, GO FIND SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU... YOU WILL BE SO MUCH HAPPIER... YOU MAY LOVE HIM BUT SIT DOWN & ASK YOURSELF... AM I TRULY HAPPY WITH HIM (& NOT JUST WHEN HE'S AROUND OR BEING SWEET BUT ALL THE TIME)... CHANCES ARE THE ANSWER IS NO... I'VE BEEN CHEATED ON BEFORE & BELIEVE ME THOSE AS$HOLES AIN'T WORTH THE TIME OF DAY... I FOUND A GUY NOW THAT TRULY LOVES ME BACK & I'M THE HAPPIEST I'VE EVER BEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE... IT WILL BE HARD BUT YOU HAVE TO LEAVE FOR YOU... DON'T WORRY ABOUT HIM BEING HURT... IF HE WAS REALLY SORRY HE WOULDN'T HAVE DONE IT MORE THAN ONCE (OR THE 1st TIME FOR THAT MATTER)... FIND SOMEONE WHO'S WORTH IT & LEAVE THIS SLIMBALL IN THE MUD... & WHEN YOU DO LEAVE, DO NOT HAVE ANY CONTACT WHATSOEVER WITH HIM OR YOU'LL JUST BE BACK IN THIS SITUATION IN A FEW MONTHS... I TOOK MY GUY BACK 4 TIMES BEFORE I FINALLY LEARNED MY LESSON & WASTED 3 YEARS WITH HIM... PLEASE DON'T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE THAT I DID... GO AHEAD AND LEAVE NOW... I PROMISE YOU WILL LOVE YOURSELF SO MUCH BETTER & YOU'LL HAVE SO MUCH MORE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF IN THE LONG RUN... BUT JUST A WARNING... YOU WILL HAVE TO WAIT OUT THE LONLINESS & MISSING HIM BUT TRY TO STAY AS BUSY AS POSSIBLE SO YOU CAN'T THINK ABOUT HIM & THEN BEFORE YOU KNOW IT... YOU WON'T THINK ABOUT HIM EVEN WHEN YOU'RE NOT BUSY BECAUSE YOU'LL BE THINKING ABOUT THE GUY YOU'RE WITH THEN & HOW GOOD HE TREATS YOU & HOW MUCH HE LOVES YOU & YOU'LL BE SO HAPPY... GOOD LUCK HONEY, I HOPE I'VE HELPED YOU GAIN THE COURAGE TO TOSS THIS CREEP OUT THE DOOR
2007-02-04 06:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Fairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can stay with him . . and he'll do it again. Unless he does something to change. Basically you need to have a confrontation.
1. Affirm your relationship - Let him know you really want to stay together.
2. Discuss the issue - He has cheated twice and will probably do it again, unless something changes.
3. Discuss solutions - He needs to get counseling, go into a 12 step group, or some source of healing.
4. Discuss action - something will change immediately or you will leave. Remember, if you stay with him, nothing changes and he cheats again, you are enabling him. It's called being co-dependent.
5. Reconfirm the relationship - Remind him you are with him through his issues and only want to build the relationship.
Good luck. Try to remember that if he chooses not to find a good resolve, it could be because he loves his ex. If he does, then his happiness is your greatest desire. So you know what that means . . . .
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2007-02-04 06:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to drink if you can't handle your liquor. Do not let a man stick something inside of you unless you want him to. You need to take more care of your body. Your body is your temple and you need to cut the drinking and promiscuity. Eventually, your boyfriend won't be there and you'll end up as one of those girls who gets date raped at a party. You're young. You don't need to be talking about forever at seventeen. I'm nineteen and I am a gorgeous blonde i can't fathom being with anyone for the rest of this year, much less the rest of this decade. You and he both want to play the field, clearly, so play it and have fun because you're not going to have a happily ever after at this age. It just doesn't happen. You need to stop drinking, especially when you're not around people you trust. Take it from me, I had a cousin who got so drunk, she got on a motorcycle with her boyfriend without a helmet and she got a big chunk of her skull sheared off by the pavement. She wasn't even driving and she still got very hurt because she wasn't sober enough to know to wear a helmet. She was in rehabilitation for five years and she just recently got back the ability to walk, five years later. Alcohol kills your brain cells and it can give you liver damage. If you can't have fun without drinking, you don't have a life. Alcohol is a drug that does more damage to your body than crack cocaine. You've got one life and one body and you're wrecking both of those right now.
2016-05-24 04:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to predict future behavior is to take a good look at past behavior. In spite of your obvious love for him, it sure sounds like your boyfriend has shown himself to be untrustworthy. By giving him yet another chance you are probably just setting yourself up for a lot more heartache.
2007-02-04 06:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by clicksqueek 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be with someone that has cheated on you more than once, or even at all! ~Once, shame on him. Twice, shame on you.~ You should've broken up with him the first time he cheated. Tell him it's over. Why would you want to be with someone that has cheated on you more than once and still wants another chance? WHAT A JERK!
2007-02-04 07:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question you can surely answer for yourself, I think you just want a little support so that's what I'll give you. I support you for being a strong woman who is tired of being disrespected and you have come to your senses and will no longer let him lead you astray. He has his cake and is eating it too. This is very dangerous for you because not only is he cheating on you with her but he is also exposing you to whomever she is sleeping with as well......AIDS is alive and well and is still accepting new members........Don't let him play you like this.
Move on and you will be happier and healthier for it. Listen to your head and not your heart.....you think you love him but you don't because you are too smart to love someone that clearly doesnt love you. If he loved you he wouldn't put your health at risk and he wouldn't keep making the same choices over and over. They are choices because he gets to decide if he wants to continue to sleep with her, its not a mistake as he wants you to believe...he chooses to keep sleeping with her. I support you and I honor you for getting out of this relationship because someone will come along and treat you like you deserve to be treated. Besides if you take him back, now that the stage is set, he will continue to sleep around on you but not only with his ex but others are well, he has no respect for you. WALK AWAY and do not look back.......do not take his calls ....and do not let him come by and smooth talk you.........you deserve better.
Move on....
2007-02-04 06:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go back to his ex. There is no reason in the world you should have to put up with him acting like that. You deserve better than that anyway.
2007-02-04 06:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by GeekGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on or join in. He's not going to change so you can either adapt or kick him to the curb. Old dogs don't change as bad as we want them too.
2007-02-04 06:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tljabgdvhj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie, but let him go. Remember the saying "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me"
2007-02-04 06:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel i would say leave em coz he will kept on doin it and then if u do 4give him he thinks u will always give him chance loeave em girl ur better of
2007-02-04 06:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by blond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋