I am a high school student, and I have a friend I'll call 'Grace.' We aren't very close, in my opinion, but she thinks she's one of my best friends. Grace simply isn't very graceful. She's nearly always angry, in an attention-seeking manner, and goes off at the stupidest things.
My friends and I have honestly gotten sick of her antics. She picks fights with others in our circle of friends over petty things, nags all the time, and is simply always negative. Whenever she's upset, she tries to ruin everyone else's day and thinks that no one can be happy just because she is feeling bad.
At this point, we are sick and tired and simply want to cut ties with Grace. The final question is pretty simple, but I just don't know how to solve it delicately...
How do my friends and I cut ties with Grace?
2007-02-04 05:45:31 · 15 answers · asked by Faith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her straight up. What she does thats bothers you girls. And if she keeps hanging around then you will have ignore her. good luck
2007-02-04 05:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by pippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell her after school or something. That way, she doesn't go off on you where the whole school can see, and you won't have to deal with her all day. But, I think that if you seriously think this is something that needs to be dealt with, then you should tell her in the morning. Just tell her how you feel about it. Tell her that you don't mind her being you guys' friend, but she goes off on them for stupid reasons, nags all the time, and picks fights with them. Just tell her that all of you are sick of it, and you think it'd be better if she wasn't you guys' friend. Now, remember: Even though this girl is probably VERY mean and cold, she could get her feelings hurt. Does she have any other friends besides you guys? If not, then she'll be a loner when you tell her you don't want her being you guys' friend. Tell her that she needs to get friends that have more things in common with her. Looking in from her point of view, she won't know what she has done. The normal human denies that they've done a thing or doesn't even see what they've done at all! If she says she hasn't done anything, recall some fights or nagging instances. I think it will be kinda sad when her only friends drop her from the group, but people get that for being rude to others. Good luck and God bless!
2007-02-04 06:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grace probably has a lot of problems at home and doesn't know how to deal with some bad situation. I think the best thing for her is for you and your friends to sit down and be as honest yet tactful as possible with her. It may help her see what she is doing and start a change in her behavior. I think a lot of this is you and your friends fault for not intervening sooner.
2007-02-04 06:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to really answer this question is to thnk about it for a while. I thought for a couple minutes and I think what you need to do is to just go ahead and tell her. The best way to tell her is in person because if you tell her on the phone or on the internet she will think that you are afraid to face her. Just tell her exactly what you told us and tell her that you will give her 1 more chance to fix up, and that if she messes up again that you will just not be her friend. This is what I would think would be best but you cant just always depend on strabgers for your answers. Think about how what everybody tells you is going to affect you. Hopefully I helped and if I didn't I am sorry.
2007-02-04 05:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Double A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell Grace that you can't see yourself being friends with because of the things she does. It's really better than continuing to ignore the situation and hoping she'll just go away.Maybe it will allow her to change and maybe you can reconnect some time later or not but honesty is always better
2007-02-04 05:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy .You need to be straight with her and explain that you don't want to be around that kind of negativity. .It's not fair to ignore her and hope she will just go away.Grace is probably already dealing with something you are not aware of that is making her react this way. Give her a chance to open up and to understand the effect she's having on others. Show your friendship and give her the chance to change. Good luck : )
2007-02-04 06:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened with me and my friends with another kid who we all simply just did not like. First we just stopped hanging with him, and just hung with ourselves. Then I remember him sending me an e-mail and I said "Look, lately you've been really annoying, and I'd just like to have some time apart. So he asked why and eventually agreed, and we haven't talked since...just tell her that you need a little time away from her, because you need time to think. And just let her go.
2007-02-04 05:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughy. No one can really anwser it for you. Sorry. The thing is that you have to solve this toughy by yourself. I'm sorry I couldn't be more help to you but thats how life works. You can't depend on others to solve all your proablems. You have to learn that you can't count on other people to make life eaiser. Sorry I couldn't be more help but thats what I belive.
2007-02-04 05:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha thats weird i have the exact same problem, the best advice i have gotten is to confront her about what shes doing and tell her that you dont like it. then give her the cold shoulder. if you ignore her shes going to ignore you. she might even change her ways if your entire circle of friends gives her the cold shoulder, she probably come crawling back to you and beg forgiveness.
2007-02-04 05:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by =] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest w/ grace, tell her how you feel. there may be something bothering grace that makes in such a bad mood. try to make her see herself when she is bulling someone for no reason, question her. maybe grace has something similar to you that makes her so close to you.
2007-02-04 05:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha i have a friend like grace
we just dont pay attention to her
and when she talks we dont listen
after about five minutes she gets tired of standing there and walks away
and if were in a group we try to get her on the outside so our backs are to her
shes really senseitive so were scared to tell her to leave us alone to her face
good luck
2007-02-04 05:54:22 · answer #11 · answered by jessica354 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋