alright people,need some support.We all know its super bowl weekend.She is trying so hard2keep me away from watching the game with my buddies.She is telling me she has to go to the mall and get something really important&she wants me2tag along.I asked after work I can pick you up go to the mall get what you want then head to my buddies house&watch the game,she kind of lost it on me &said I was a joke&that we always spend time with my friends but we don't that is the funny thing maybe once a month.I the sucker being a nice guy&showing that I care I invited her2come&watch the game.She says..(what you don't want2do something just with me) I said out of all days you decided to say this now. She called me a joke & hang up on me I don't know what I should do, should I call her back or not? I say to my self don't b/c she is being a jerk. But we have had probs so I guess it has lead up2this,she doesn't like that I work out,wok certian hrs,tlk 2my friends, etc
2007-02-04 05:45:15 · 22 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well I don't treat her as2nd best,it has been crazy for a while,when we first met i was able2do wat i did best,of course i changed my schedule2go out with the girl,i liked her&stil do.I don't know if this is normal but say i work mon,wed 10am-6pm then work out 7-9pm I always ask her if she wld like2go4acofe after.she always says no&its late,thurs-sat after work i see her from 6pm-12am-3am&on sun i work abit&then hav sum family time,friend time&sometimes i asked her hey my friends r having a get2gether,were invited,she always says no&she says&claims she is2nd best&i dont see her enough,dont get me wrong sumtimes i wld work out2x's a week,everytime we go out I pay&stil calls me cheap I bought her a nice tiffinay's necklas&says its **** mean while she like it abt 3months ago&doesn't even where it,she says she wants2travel so i ask her lets go down south&she says she is scared of flights&acuses me i dont want2do nething with her,of course of al this¬ understanding i hav went bonks/angry
2007-02-05 12:17:26 · update #1
i meant2say not understandin her..neway we hav been going out4about 3 1/2 yrs we went2school near by&now we have decent jobs,i have totally have changed my life&i thought it wld b4the best of us,its so hard,i know she wants to c me during the day&6pm is late but what the heck people hav2work,i hav become a softy over this,she accuses me of cheating but I am actually starting to think she has done it but I guess I wld never know mayb she is doing this so I can leave her b/c she has another guy,i cant just b girl wiped, i just love the girl, we hav been through alot,she has changed into this sweet girl to a monster i cant reason with her,tlk2her with out her saying boring,cheap,asshole,ur family sucks,etc,its crazy,i hav bursted a couple of bubles over this&i stil hav the decency2say sory,i cant b boring i ask her lets go clubin with me or friends,eating out,musical,museum,vacation(sun,beach),even ski resort which we hav been 4 x's,she says im selfish&lookin4my own intrest,i dont get it.
2007-02-05 12:33:23 · update #2
i hav even tried being an asshole&it works4abit then i get nice agian&she turns so i try again being an ***,then she cries so i feel bad then i say sory,its like wat the heck does she want from a guy.The girl is smart, uses her head alot,attractive,very handy,good qualities but man she has some lose 1's up ther,wen i was in school mon-fri 9am-8pm&work 30hrs a week sumx's sleep in my car so i can save time&go2work&c her,tht was not even good enough,i cldnt c her&she wld cry,so i wld get upset,yel after we xchange a few,i cldn't i needed2study,work,etc,it was crazy i dont know how im stil lasting,i realy dont know what2do until yesturday superbowl day she was crying&saying2me when she says no2sumthing I say Ok&aparently it doesn't matter2me if i c her or not&said she wants a break from us,i told her i gladly wil take u up on tht offer,then she caled me a joke&tht i try2lead her b/c i cant lead others&tht i try2make her into a slave&said more2hurt me,I just hang up,wow reading this givs
2007-02-05 12:48:01 · update #3
me the chills,i sound like a dork who is in a trap,thanks2all for reading up on this & for your good adivce&for those people that think I never put my girl first I believe I have, I have sacrificed alot&I believe as an younge or old adult people should put there insecurity to the side&learn2trust there loved 1's until u actaully catch them in the act.I really don't know what is going to happen&I am not strong enough2let her go I am trying not to pick up the phone2cal her,This is my first time going on this&i feel bad,but I really have2say I hope no 1 goes through this feeling b/c it totaly sucks&causes rinkles.any good advice pass it along thanks again.
2007-02-05 12:54:09 · update #4
Shame man, you sound really sweet. Through out your letter you state all the things that you have done for her and given up for her and changed for her etc. A relationship is about giving and taking - one person can't do all the giving and the other all the taking - it has to be fair and it has to go both ways. It seems to me you are doing all the work, sacrifices etc and she doesn't even want to give you one day with your friends to watch the game, even when you invited her along.
She is taking you for granted - you need someone who will give just as much as you do. She's not a jerk, she's a spoiled selfish brat.
You can do much better - dump her... if you really love her to much to do that, at least put your foot down - both people need time for the things that they like to do. You go with her to the mall, she can watch the game with you.
EQUALITY!!!
2007-02-12 01:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there "nice guy",
It sounds to me that your gf is telling you how she feels.Is she always second best or is she insure??
You do need time with your friends and family alone.It is healthy for you.What would you talk about to your girlfriend if you were always together? You do need some space I agree.
And everyone knows it is Superbowl Sunday!! Guys everywhere will be watching it.She is being selfish and a jerk by making you feel bad.She had all week to say something to you if she wanted to make plans.
She is immature.But on the other hand she is telling you how she feels.
She is a very insecure person.Doesn't like how you work out???Tuff! You are your own person and she does not control you.You cannot control the long hours of work I'm sure right? At least you work and you are not a bum.
She is all about herself I guess.Just make time for her but do not rearrange your life just for her.She must accept you for who you are.
Good Luck!!
2007-02-04 06:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by virgo woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lady is trying to control you. You might want to re-think where this relationship is going and just exactly how much you want to change your life for her. Were you working out and working the same hours when you met? Were you hanging out with the guys alot more before you started dating?
Sure, football drives me nuts too, I can't stand it when I feel I have to re-arrange my plans to "fit the game in" all season long. But I have to admit my husband made no secret of loving to watch the game and after being together for almost 20 years (dating & married) I have come to begin to enjoy some of the games and resign myself for the rest...it is only a few months and there are times when we can plan stuff on Sundays. The superbowl is only once a year....I either plan a "girls day out", enjoy the game with hubby & kids, do chores in other parts of the house, or read a good book.
When you find someone to share your life with they shouldn't want to change you or be jelous of your work, friends or family. Now I'm not talking about dirty socks on the living room floor or being with the guys 24/7....there has to be some give and take. But you shouldn't have to deal with "control issues" or possessiveness just because of a game that is only on once a year. Heck, my hubby proposed to me on Superbowl Saturday and I said yes knowing full well that the next day we would be watching the game with his friends! Good luck.....
2007-02-04 06:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loved you she would reorganize her plans for maybe the day after, u obvouisly care about her when u asked if she wanted to go the mall after that day at work. She should be way more resonible, theb she is right, u kow go to ur buddies house and watch the game, and don't call her, wait til she calls u and apologizes to you. Now Unless u have been spending time w/ ur buddies a whole lot latley then maybe u should think about goin gto the mall w/ her!
2007-02-04 05:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your relationship is solid or at least has two feet on the ground i would just go and see your buddies. Because if you guys care for one another your going to get through this its not a big deal..She is overacting for no reason..you tried to compromise and it didn't work so you did you share so i would just go out with your buddies and relax...and besides if this situation causes your relationship to be done.. you don't need that kind of girl..every girl knows Superbowl weekend there is no point in having down time with your loved one. take care!
2007-02-04 05:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go watch the game with my buddies and handle this situation later. A lot of women dont understand football and think that its just a dumb game but I have watched it and love it. Its not like there are going to be dancing girls or anything. Everyone has the right to their own free time. She sounds insecure.
2007-02-04 05:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 10:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF and say ***** GET OUT THA WAY!
Hah, I am so white actually.
Anyways. She needs to be able to go and do her own thing now and then jsut as you do. You need to let her know that she is more than welcome to watch the game with you and the guys but that is exactly what it is going to be... YOU. WATCHING THE GAME..... WITH THE GUYS
Sounds like she is in great need of a harsh reality check and needs to be told that the entire planet does not revolve around her. She needs to accept this before she loses something even greater.
2007-02-11 15:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by Miss. Persephone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go watch the game .....
If she is going ot try to be THAT controlling she isn't worth it in the long run... she needs to realize that she isn't the queen of the relationship.... she is an equal party and an event like this can't be placed after her silly little whim.
If she dumps you... oh well. She seems like a C*NT anyway.
2007-02-04 05:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ecofreako 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has to understand that sports play a very important role in the lives of men. This is like valentines day for men. She will have her day in like a week and a half. Make sure you call her after the game. You might have to buy her a sorry card.
2007-02-04 05:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by mscluckey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋