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There is this guy at my job, but i dont like him at all. But he likes me, and he shows it alot. I mean he makes me nervous not the good nervous but the bad. One time I went down to the basement to get something and he was there..so I went into a room only to turn around he was blocking the door way smiling. So I warned him..and then I screamed so he got frieghtend and moved. So then every saturday now he always does something new now. SO yesterday he asked me to kiss him more than one time. I told him no leave me alone..so he started making perverted remarks to me..so I ingored him. Then he asked me again...I said ******* leave me alone..please. He keeps touching my arm always or something..IM sorta weirded out. What should I do??? Please some good sensible adivce.
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40 minutes ago
Ohh..and I went to use the bathroom so I left my cellie on the table..He decided to take my phone and get my number so now he has my number and told me I have to answer when he calls..and I said oh hell no .and as of now my phone is off..what the hell is his problem???
13 minutes ago
Is it wrong to be friendly to people. I was friendly to this guy maybe he took the friendliness the wrong way..I dont know..!!
2007-02-04 05:07:20 · 20 answers · asked by Angelia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey friend,
I think you better better tell him off again!!What he is doing to you by touching your arm is sexual harassment.
I know this for sure I went through this.I was working for a doctor and we became really good friends.He always wanted hugs and stuff and would turn his head as if he was going to kiss me.I ignored it for about a month then I quit my job.
Turn to your employer for help or the police.I know you don't want trouble but don't let anyone walk over you.Keep your head up high girl!!!!Just because you are nice and friendly does not mean men of any kind can do that to you!!
Tell him you will go to the police next time and not to call you that way if you had to charge him he has been warned.Trust me I went through this 3 or 4 years ago.My father happens to be a cop too so I know what I am talking about.Plus my uncle happens to be a lawyer.Do not let anyone man or woman walk over you!Protect yourself you never know what can happen!!
I am not trying to scare you I just have been there.I had the doctor threaten me and I showed him.
Good luck Angie!! Talk to a close friend or family member too.they will emotionally support you.
2007-02-04 05:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by virgo woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. This is not your fault.
1. This guy is a control freak that takes pleasure from scareing you.
2. He is sexually harassing you on the job. Get a voice activated tape recorder or one you have to turn on, and tape him.
DO NOT TELL HIM YOU ARE DOING THIS.
tape phone call too. see radio shsck about a device that attatches between phone and tape recorder.
if you drive try to keep your vehicle a secret. Always loo in back seat before geting in and look under the car too.
do not walk to car by yourself. get another male employee to walk with you, everytime.
Tell them why. Be sure it is someone you can trust, or get a friend or relative to drive you.
Go to police department as soon as you can, report him so they can watch him.
1/2 of this advice is from my man.
all men are not like this.
again. you did nothing wrong.
MAKE SURE NOT TO BE ALONE WITH HIM.. ALWAYS BE SURE SOMEONE CAN SEE YOU AT ALL TIMES.
THIS GUY IS A NUT.
3.While doing this look for another job. very few times does a sexual preditor (his kind) pay for thier actions.
Before you start your new job keep a copy and turn the other copy of evidence into your employer and the police.
He may be harmless than he could be deadly.
this is not a joke. protect yourself.
Make sure he has no access to your keys.
2007-02-04 13:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know where you work; but all jobs usually have a personnel person you can talk with in confidence. You need to report the abuse and let someone else intervene or the problem will get worse.
This person is obviously not mature and seeks attention. Best to back away from the problem and let someone else handle it since he does not seem to take you serious.
2007-02-04 13:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by monroe_dunbar1957 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is textbook sexual harrassment and there are laws against it. Report him both verbally and in writing (keep copies of everything) to your boss and if nothing is done, go over your bosses head to his/her boss. Do NOT let this guy get away with this behavior, think of the women you will be saving from future harrassment. Ask other women in the office if they are having problems, you might be surprised at just who else he's bothering.
2007-02-04 13:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Charge him for sexual harrassment, but first make sure more people know about this that way it stands firm if needed to go to court. Normally I'd say ask someone you trust like a friend or brother to kick his as* but that could get you in trouble with the law.
Yes, you should be friendly with people just be smart about it. Guys like this give guys like me a bad name.
Make sure your boss knows.
2007-02-04 13:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Yea Yea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to write down each event ASAP with as much accurate timing as possible. Hand this to your boss or HR department and file a report at the police department. They may or may not act upon it now, but it will keep a record of his action.
Be sure to get proffessional advice here from both your HR dept. and the police department.
2007-02-04 14:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to your immediate supervisor and report this person. Go right now!!!!! Go before something really awful happens. This is sexual harassment and needs to be dealt with swiftly. If he is in your personal life you need to contact the police as well. Change your cell phone number. It's ok to be friendly with people and know this is not your fault but you need to do something to protect yourself...GO NOW.
2007-02-04 13:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by scoop6698 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your employer know what is going on and go and file harassment charges. You did what you thought was right by being nice. He has taking your kindness out of context and using it in all the wrong ways.
2007-02-04 13:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to be freindly with people.
This guy is a pervert.
He is doing something illegal. It's called sexual harrasement. He can get fired or go to jail for this.
I urge you to speek to somebody at your work about what he is doing, and if that doesn't work report him to the police.
2007-02-04 13:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Myglassesarealwaysclean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYTHING the people above ^ said.
Plus get a new cell phone number. It'll be worth it!!
2007-02-04 13:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Moonlit Jazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋