I'm going to be a freshman of highschool next year, and my mom STILL won't let me wear make up???

Question

All I want to do is wear some mascara and a little eyeliner. THAT'S IT! Every other girl in my grade that wants to wear makeup, wears it. I'm not even exaggerating. Now, I'm going to be a freshman soon and I still can't even wear mascara?? I'm going into highschool, and I feel much better & much more confident with just a little mascara & eyeliner. I don't understand what's so bad about it. But anyway, what should I do? Am I wrong to feel this way?

Even when I tell her that I feel better & that everyone else that wants to wear make up wears it, she doesn't care. No matter what I say or do, I still don't have her approval to wear makeup.

Answer 1

you are getting older so those feelings are ok. but you should not disrespect your mother if she says no. maybe show her an example of what you are talking about at home. sometimes when the parents see wht you want to do, they are prone to go along with the ideal or negotiate.

Answer 2

I am sorry. I don't think you are exaggerating about all your friends getting to wear makeup but that never I mean NEVR works with moms (But everyone is doing it) ( Well if everyone was jumping off the roof would you want to also) so stop using that one on her. You are going into Highschool but you sound kinda whiney. You should get to wear A LITTLE mascarea and Eyeliner but you can not and should not go against your mom. Since you feel more confident etc. wearing it I guess you have tried it before? Is it only to school she won't let you wear it? Maybe she is worrried you will wear too much. Try telling her and showing her exactly how much you will wear and tell her you will not bring it to school in case she thinks you will put more on there. Don't argue with her just try to justifiy why you want to wear it. By the way not only the girls wear eyeliner and mascera in High School let me tell you that right now

Answer 3

You still have 9 months before high school! Are you younger than most girls in your grade or the ame age? My mom made my sister go by her age - she was almost a year younger than everyone else. Caused lots of problems in our family.
Has your mother told you at what age she thinks you may wear mascara? Perhaps you are close and could accept her limits if you knew when they would end. At what age was she allowed? Your mom is probably not being punitive but has set a schedule in her own mind. Is she friends with any of your friend's moms? Perhaps another mom could persuade her. As a mom...I promise...if you make this into a battle over her authority, she will have to stick with her decision in order to maintain her position as you head into some trying high school years. You need a third party to help ease your mom into letting you grow up. She only wants the best for you and may make mistakes but always with the best intentions.

Answer 4

I think you should listen to your Mom, BUT, why not take her on a shopping trip to your local department store that has on the spot make up applications and get you BOTH done. Perhaps your Mom is insecure about HERSELF and make up. This would help you both out and could turn out to be a great Mother-daughter experience......

p.s. - I'd tell the make up person that you only want mascara, eyeliner and lip gloss right off the bat so that she doesn't make you up looking tooo drastically different.... Go for the natural glow that just enhances your features....

Answer 5

I am a freshman this in high school this year. Being in highschool is great b/c everyone is different and unique and people dont neccessarily want to blend in like they do in middle school. I think you will find that a lot of people dont care if you dont wear make up. I am lucky that my mom let me wear makeup, but alot of my friends dont wear makeup EVERYDAY. Not b/c they cant , b/c they dont want to. Its alot more freeing in highschool and i think you'll find that not wearing make up isnt that big of a deal. However you should continue to ask your mom if it is important to you. Make sure you are calm and respectful so she is mor likely to listen to you and not just get mad. good luck w/ the rest of eighth grade, and have fun in highschool!

Answer 6

trust me i feel ur pain, my mom wont let me wear make up, paint my nails, talk on the phone for over 10 minutes, get a facial, waxing, get my hair colored or permed, and thats just the beginning. first, ask her why she thinks that way, then ask when she thinks you can start to wear it. try and compromise. tell her how u feel, see if she has any tips 4 u. If she feels like u still care about what she thinks, she might let u do it. ur mom might just not want u to overdo it so tell herexactly what u r going to do. o and make sure u tell her that u will take care of ur face and wash the make up off. make sure she knows that u r saying this cuz u dont want to disobey her!!!

Answer 7

well, i already am a freshman right now. honestly it doesn't matter what make up you wear and yes practically everyone in your grade does wear it. my mom told me that too, she was like natural beautys the best and she's right. but i guess natural beauty wasn't enough for me and i felt ugly w/ out eyeliner. so what i did was i put on make up a little at a time and showed my mom. she did flip out and call me some names that aren't nice at all. but after awhile she got over it. i do want to wear like foundation and stuff. but i'm waiting until maybe sophomore/junior year.

Answer 8

i can totally understand. my cousin went throught that whole deal. i guess if you mom is really strict and you really want to wear makeup maybe put some on at school, then, after you last class go to the bathroom and use eye makeup remover to get it off. but if you want to be honest, keep tring to convince her. show her what you look like w/ the makeup on and say, "it's not that bad". eyeliner is more of an expression, just like painting you nails and that sort of thing. eventually she will cave

Answer 9

You will have to make a more convincing argument than, "everyone else is doing it." Expand upon "...I feel much better & much more confident with just a little mascara & eyeliner." Give specific examples, and devise counter points to the reasons for her objections.

Answer 10

Go with what she says, for now. After a little while, once your mom has had time to adjust to the fact that girls wear more makeup, she'll gradually let you do it. Just don't press the issue and don't sneak! She'll only ban it for longer.